The “positive you”
‘’Stay positive and happy. Work hard, and don’t give up hope. Be opened to criticism and keep learning. Surround yourself with happy, warm and genuine people.’’- Tena Desae
You keep your eyes opened. You do whatever it takes to find your loved one. Blind dates, singles parties… You know that you will have to be patient, stay focused. But gosh! you can’t help it. It goes straight from your heart and you say: “will I ever get a boyfriend?” Well, here, I want to help you to keep your focus and stay motivated as your research continues. I mean you can’t just count on chance to find your man, right? To start, the first step is to remember that the “positive you” will always be your best friend. You will have to take care of her.
“What? The positive me? Who’s that supposed to be?”
Well, it’s pretty simple. The ”positive you” is the wonderful feeling you feel inside thinking about your life. Yes, now you haven’t found your man yet, so you think that your life sucks. But think about that principle: the more you feel great inside, the more men will notice it. Something strong inside of them will push them toward you. Men always want to meet shining women. When we see one, we are a bit like those flying insects turning around a light bulb a summer night.
You know how guys are, right? We think this. Wow what a vibrant woman! If she feels that great inside, it’s means that she’s proud in general of her body. A woman like that must be fun to be around … and probably great in bed…
No matter how you look stay positive, start to feel great inside and soon or later, a man will start to turn around you with that kind of “hummm” inner talk in his head.
Isn’t what you are looking for?
Tip 1 Be careful of what you watch
A few years ago, I heard that the owner of the corporation I worked for used to forbid his daughter to watch TV the week days. Now, that was ridiculous. But just try to count how many negative news and thoughts you have seen or read online yesterday. Slowly, you start understand his point of view. Your readings, what you watch is just like food. I mean do you really want to eat junk food all day long? You are going to be sick. It’s the same thing with what you read and watch. You start to think just like what you see all day. Your state of mind gets sick so to speak: you feel bad.
In other words, you best friend, positive-you is running away.
You have to take care of that lady. I will never say: ”stay away from Facebook” or ”to put your computer in the closet”. I hate to say to my friends what they have to do. I will not start doing that with you, ladies. But just remember to be conscious about the kind of vibration the news, the posts you read will eventually affect you. One of the consequence will be the way you approach men and the way they response to you. If you feel bad, they will probably think that there’s maybe something wrong with you…
Tip 2. Have a pleasant life
Tell me if you think that statement is logical. The best way to feel great inside, to be vibrant is to create a pleasant life.
Time to explore the different ways to enjoy your existence.
What is your favorite hobby? How many times do you practice your favorite pastime in a week? What cause is important to you? Is there a community that you would be more than happy to join or to visit more frequently? If you like to read, you can read some books that explain in plain English the thoughts of some of the greatest philosopher of all time. The thinkers have studied the question of week-being all their live. You can find some inspiration reading their opinion. One of my favorite philosophers is Spinoza.
Tip 3. Build great thoughts in your head.
And here come the next point. Maybe some sad thoughts come to your mind.
“It so hard to find a man”. “Nobody loves me”. “Maybe I just don’t have what it takes.”
You have feelings and you have the right to feel bad. This is your experience right now. I will never condemn what yours. However, what you can do is to create some great feelings, some wonderful thoughts in your mind. Spinoza believed that the stronger thought always wins. It means that if you create an awesome feeling inside of you, it will create a energy that will take care of your sad mood. You don’t have to get rid of anything. How to create that kind of sweet thoughts? The affirmations will help you get that awesome vibration you deserve.
How to create awesome thoughts
Well let’s start about your body. Is there a part that you really like? Say that you like your legs. Why not saying this in your head:
“I love my beautiful legs. I’m sexy.”
Take your time to say it. Feel it. You can even get further. The next time you take a bath, you can say this: “I soap my beautiful legs. I’m really sexy. Men like to watch me”.
Is that what’s happening in reality? Well, keep using those kinds of affirmations over and over and, if you really believe in what you say, (in that case that you have beautiful legs), something will definitively happen. Men will start to turn your head when you pass by.
Now do you feel a lot of affection inside when you think about your father, your mom? Do not be shy to in your head “mom I love you so much. I give you a big, big hug”. Again, feel it. Maybe the person that is very dear to you is your brother or your sister. What? Both? Give to everyone their share of love!
Let’s say that you are a teacher and you think about the kids in your class. You know what to do!
This is what I call “taking care of oneself”. You have, now, two wonderful techniques to totally change your mood and your vibration.
(To have more ideas to have a pleasant life, read the article 7 ways to attract your perfect boyfriend).
Be generous to yourself and to people you care about with your thoughts and you will soon notice that your negative mood starts to melt away. What’s left inside of you is that great feeling inside. Something that men can’t help to notice.
And then starts that “humm” talk in their head….
It means it’s time to go and find your amazing man, lady!
Met a boy cute as can be
Summer days driftin’ away
To ah, oh, those summer nights
Summer nights- Grease