Picture yourself the man of your dream. Write your boyfriend’s favorite hobby, his taste. Are your looking for a man who feels that it is important to get involve to have a better society? The answers you write will be very important for you. They will give you a hint of the kind of places you want to go to find your boyfriend.
Single bars and restaurants
Consider this. Let’s say that you are looking for a man who likes theater, sculpture and literature. You will have to go to a certain kind of bar where you will be able to find this man. Many theaters have in their local a bar.
Are you looking for a rich man? Google a little to find the bars where wealthy bachelors like to hang around. Some sites will help you refine your researches. For instance, foursquare.com. This site is straight and forward. All you have to do is to type the city where you live in. You press enter and then you will see a list of restaurants that might suit your need (This site is only for restaurants but you will find others that will be great tools to find clubs, coffee shops, book stores, and hotels…)
You goal is to really understand the type of man you are looking for and start your research.
You can go to two different kinds of parties (maybe I should say three).
The first kind is a party that is organized by an even specialist. Here in so ways, we are back to the 1st suggestion: remember that it is important to know what kind of man you are looking. Just visualized your soon-to-be boyfriend: it will be easier to choose the right party you want to go. Again your best ally (Google) will help you find the sites where those party planners will publish their next celebration.
The second kind of party is the one that is organized by one of your friends.
If your neighbor or your friend since 4th grade invites you, I would suggest you to go.
Think about that math principle: the more you see people, the more you will have a chance to find your man.
This is how my girl friend met me. Just ask your friend who is single. You will be prepared. You can even ask to your friend to introduce you or to talk about to you a few days before the party. It will break the ice and you will already have something to talk about when you meet the man!
The last type of party (but not the least) is all about you: It’s the one that you organize yourself.
If you have some experience or if you have enough friends, just throw a party!
You already know the formula: Invite your friends and then ask them to invite their own friends. You can create a theme for your party. It could be just a single party. It’s up to you.
Here’s what my sister did was few years ago: A Valentine’s Day party. But in July!
A lot of people have found love online. This technique works. Will you have to be patient? Maybe. But think about this: you don’t have to use only that tool to find your man.
Are you with me?
Online dating is not the only solution. You don’t have to depend all your time on it. It will be just one of all the techniques you use to find your boyfriend. So it won’t matter if online dating takes time to produce some results.
Just remember to write a profile that shows how positive and vibrant you are. Try to be a bit funny. Above all, do not complain about how difficult it is to find a real man. You are not talking to your best friend here (Sorry to tell you that so abruptly- a lot of women do that on their profile).
They are different types of dating sites. This is a big plus for you.
Some of them are designed for Christians, for Jews. You will find some site specialized to help people who are looking for term relationships
Now, a last comment about the apps…
Today almost all of them have that option to localize men around you
So imagine this.
Let’s say that you love to read books. You are looking for a man who likes to talk about literature. Go to a bookstore and use your application to find who is browsing books. Use the same technique if you like cars, if you like to hike, or if you just like comicons.
Here again take a piece of paper and a pen. Write the three causes that are the most important for you.
Why three and not only one? Well let me give you an example.
My number one cause is helping an organization that gives a shelter to battered women. Maybe I was a kind of male chauvinist when I was a child but I remember that I have always hated violence again girls in my school: Brutality toward boys, it’s wrong; toward a girl, it is a monstrosity.
Nothing has changed (well I’m not in 3rd grade anymore…).
But I were a woman, it would be a bit hard for me to find love in one of those kinds of associations: most of the volunteers are women… So try to find a cause that matters to you and that will give you the chance to meet men at the same time. You will already have something in common. No need to break the ice.
The last idea leads use to this point. A great idea is to go to classes that men like to assist. Here are some examples:
- Sport classes like martial arts, box, etc…
- Woodworking classes
- Music group classes
- Cooking classes. Yes, you will find more and more men in those classes
- Flying lessons
- Foreign language classes
Foreign language classes
Here is a great secret.
You will have the chance to meet a lot of men in those foreign language classes for a simple reason: you have to practice with the folks in the classes. It’s part of the program.
Nothing is more wonderful that when the system is on your side. Are you shy, nervous? Well who will blame you in class? Hey, you are learning a new language!
If you are not shy or if you want to do something about it, here something that you can do.
Do so and you will hit two targets with only one stone.
Take some improvisation lessons. You will have the chance to talk with men, have fun with them. You will have the opportunity to show your personality, to make them notice how fantastic you are.
In those improvisation classes, the rule is to communicate. There are no walls to break. You don’t have to present yourself. If you make something silly everybody will laugh. So there is not tension, no stress about anything. In the province of Quebec, theater improvisation is a tradition. A lot of couples have been created in those classes…
It could be your story too…
Have fun exploring those techniques. Try to create new one.
Now go and find your amazing man!