The nightmare- A bad way to impress your first date
It’s so easy to get the picture in your head. Here’s what happened.
A week ago, my sister told me that one of her had a very bad time in her last date. It was a date following an event for singles organized by a meetup group.
I personally don’t know why she accepts the invitation. I know that he was cute, a bit insecure; he was a bit shy. You know, the kind of man how looks a bit too much his shoes? So here they were at an Argentinean restaurant. And, right after the order, the nightmare started.
The man’s nightmare…
The questions started to rain.
“Oh, no… Not that typical police interrogation”, must have said the guy.
She started asking if he wanted to have kids. Does he like children? Is he faithful? What your job?
And so on, so on…
But she barely had known his name.
The man finally switched off. Talking about a romantic date!
My sister’s friend was very frustrated.
“Why did you ask all those questions?”
The woman looked my sister, raising her eyebrows and said:
“Because I wanted to know who I’m dealing with. I don’t want to lose my time with jerks anymore”.
The problem was that she was not interested in the man. She just wanted to qualify him. And he just felt it.
Men hate to feel that they are living a police interrogation.
You want to know a man? You feel that you absolutely have to ask questions? (you just can’t help it)?
Here how to do it. And the man will be happy to answer them.
Please ask more questions, lady
There is a fun way to ask questions. Soon, not only you will be able to ask all the questions you want, but the man you are dating will think that you are a fun girl to be around.
Try to remember that a first date should be an informal, light, and relaxed moment. Many guys forget that point today. Here’s what happens. Most men in the last 10 years are used to think that they will get that famous interrogation. So they prepare themselves. How many times did you felt that the guy you are dating is rattling off his resume and love life without even breathing? Tell me how many times you have heard the same crap, the same clichés.
Yes, it’s crazy but you will often have to create that relaxed moment yourself (traditionally if was the man’s job). It’s possible to get all the information you need and, at the same time create fun moment. Yeah!
Think about it. You know what most guys like, right? Try to craft your questions so he will more than happy to reveal himself. Now, lady, just remember that you don’t know him yet. Some of your questions will miss the target. You will ask a question about his favorite rock band and he has no interest music; he is waiting a question about action movies but you just don’t realize it.
This technique is based trial and errors. But once you get it, he will be happy to talk to you for hours.
Soon, just reading between the lines, you will have a good idea of the type of man you are dealing with. You will read, here, some suggestions. I will divide those questions under different aspects that men can have. But they are not exclusive. It you find out that you are with a musician, you always can try a geek question.
The geek guy questions
Is there a TV show that you will love for the rest of your life? Tell me about your favorite scene.
There is always a reason why a TV show is a favorite one (especially if the last episode was aired a few years ago). For instance, Malcolm in the middle is my all time favorite sitcom. I’m aware that it’s because, deep inside, I’m a rebel.
You can ask the same question about his favorite movie. If, he tells you that the last movie he saw was Ant man and the Wasp and that his favorite moments was when the super hero was with his daughter, you will have a good idea of how he feels about children.
Do you follow me?
Here are some other questions that will tell a lot when you link all the dots.
Tell me. What’s your favorite TV quote? Why?
Who is your celebrity crush?
What is the terrible secret? The awful movie you just love to see?
If your life was a movie, what would be the name? Would you want a sequel?
What movie character would you like to be?
The music lover.
Ask your date if he had a rock band, what would be the band’s name. That question can say a lot
My good friend, Martin, choose the name The Fire Inside for our band. When he proposed it to me, I smiled. It was impossible to find a better than that one. This name represents the way we think, our philosophy and spirituality.
For sure, there a chance that the man will give you a funny name (if he has any inspiration at all) but add this information with the other one and you will have a good idea of what going on in his mind.
As a DJ, what would be your name?
Would you rate game
This type of question can be so fun. At the same time, to answer them, the man will need to reveal a little bit of himself.
Would you rather have fashionable clothes of comfortable clothes? Why?
Get up early or stay up late?
Do you prefer to ask for help or try to figure out the solution by yourself?
You have $3000 Do you prefer to by band new computer or do you prefer to take the money to travel?
Follow the rhythm of the conversation
Try to make if feel natural. Give some information to the man when needed and listen to him. Do not stack all the questions at once in your conversation. Of course, your copy of your eBook conversation chemistry will help you a lot to have a successful first date (and the ones following).
You know what? Just remember that the first date should be playful and relaxed and you will, for sure, make a great first impression. You will get all the information you need.
And he will remember you for sure!
Do you have any question? Any comments? Well, lady, don’t be shy. There’s a little box, below, placed just for you.
Now you know how to ask questions without seeing your date running away.
Go, and find your amazing man!