I got to admit it, that story is amazing! So I will share it with you. It’s the true story a young woman who was looking for a boyfriend.
With Rachel (yep, that’s her name), you will have a better understanding of the idea that we talk about in the last article. Remember? We talked about the two different ways we approach things. I called those tendencies, teams. You can be part of the “I want this” team or part of the “I don’t want that” team.
Now like I said, there’s no right or wrong. There is no good or bad attitude. See the team like the mental frame in which you operate the changes in your life. Your team represents your state of mind when make your decisions. Your emotion, personality will push you to decide it you “want this” or if you “don’t want that”.
The first mental model is based on Pleasure; the second one is based on the fact that you are fed up with something. Rachel is part of the second team, big time.
From London with love.
The lady is a sweet woman living in London. To say things bluntly, she’s just sick and tired of being lonely. Like a lot of women, she had her part of Tinder nightmares, you know what I mean?
Anyway, here she’s scrolling Twitter. She sees that her friend, who was been with her boyfriend for the last 2 years, is now engaged.
Now this hurts. It hurts a lot.
So story short, she decide to post on Facebook that she is looking for a man (hey, after all, that’s how her friend got her fiancée). Of course, she is scared to death. Isn’t that supposed to be private life, she wonders? What will people say?
Simple but not stupid
Her post is quite simple. She simply says that her name is Rachel. She lives in London. Then, she just jumps in the cold water: she writes that she’s looking for a boyfriend.
That’s about it.
Yeah… If it’s that simple then why her heart is beating so fast that it’s about the pop out of her chest?
But Rachel keeps saying in her head:
“What do I have to lose?”
In fact, her idea is that, hopefully, a friend of a friend will you read this post and maybe will contact her. Or maybe a mom will read it and say:
“Um… I know a young man who would be just perfect for that lady. Hey, my son, come here!”
This is what is supposed to happen, right? Well, not this time…
Will you go out with me?
In fact, a few minutes after her post, she starts to receive comments from other women. They say that they really understand how she feels.
“You will find your man. Keep looking”.
Sweet messages. It helps when you are afraid to read the messages you get. There are so many comments and replies!
Some guys started to ask her out. What’s very funny is the way they present themselves. It’s not that their comments are stupid. In fact, they are actually very interesting. This is not what Rachel was expecting to read. You know those boring texts men write on their dating site profile? Well, here it’s totally different. Men talk to Rachel about their passions, what they like to do, what they expect from life. They talk about their friends, about what their friends think about them.
Amazing… But something else is about to happen.
From the planet earth with love
The next morning, Rachel starts to have funny notifications. Her post is now on many new sites all around the world!
Now, it’s a bit too much… She thinks that she’s losing control. She feels very vulnerable. Can you imagine that? All around the world, men start to ask her out. Some women who like to play Cupid contact her on behalf of her male friend. I guess those guys don’t have the guts to ask her directly:
“Hey, love, do you want to go out? If yes, I’ll buy a ticket and be in London in a week. Wait for me!”
Rachel chats a lot. Some men just go straight saying: “I’d like to take you out”. Others are willing to chat a bit more. There are many sweet and fun conversations.
But have she found a boyfriend? Well, not yet. But for sure, it’s a great experience. Soon or later, she will find her man: the one who will be just perfect for her; a man who could be (who knows) the right husband.
Do you have any questions? Any comments? Don’t be shy. There’s a little box below just for you.
Now you know the strategy you will choose has to based on your tendencies. Do you want to have something or do you want to avoid? Continue to think about it.
Now go and find your amazing man!