I can’t get a boyfriend. What am I doing Wrong?
Today I will talk about the main reason why you can’t get a boyfriend.
And what you can do to solve the problem.
Maybe that thought have passed in your mind lately.
“I have an even temper, I am friendly. People say I’m sweet and beautiful. So what is the problem? Is there something I’m doing wrong?“
The answer could be yes or no.
But the most important is to remember this: there is no reason to be hard on yourself. Blaming yourself will lead you nowhere.
Let’s see how you can grow from that experience and, at the same time, find the man of your dream. Here we go!
Why can’t I find someone to love me? Stop making that mistake.
The solution has all to do with the way you handle the situation. You have the right to be hurt and sad. But staying in that a negative attitude is the biggest mistake you can make. It can destroy all your chances to meet the man who is just perfect for you. I have seen it over and over. It’s sad.
Here’s how negative attitude works: it starts with the comments you make, in silence, in your head. Those thoughts will affect the way you see relationship in general, and men in particular.
Your opinion will shape your attitude toward them.
Then your attitude will sculpt your habits.
The point is this: continue to feed this negative dialog in your head and you will ruin your love life.
It is as simple as it can get.
Now the question is this: how do you get rid of that bad vibration? Where do you start to a build a massive and positive attitude that will attract men?
Related article: to know more about how your thoughts create your reality, read the article How to attract the man you want – the law of attraction.
Why don’t I have a boyfriend if I’m pretty? When your look is not enough…
Being pretty is not always enough. There are a lot of competition out there. Men are distracted by their everyday life just like women are. They are troubled by their emotional issues, their fears.
This is why vibration is can be gold for you. If you build it the right, it can literally create miracles. If you create a bad vibe, your love life will be in a difficult situation.
The truth is this: Vibration is contagious. This is why people want to be close to positive people. We all want to meet people who make us feel great. We do our best to keep our distance from those who make us feel bad.
Men are no different from women on that point.
Here’s a real story that will show how bad vibration can destroy all your chances to meet the man of your dreams.
I know a very negative woman who is a specialist at ruining house parties. Invite her and she will, soon or later, start talk about how difficult it is to find a man.
People are selfish. No one wants to commit anymore. And things are going to get worst with that Covid 19 crisis.
One evening, a handsome man is sited on her left in a party. He’s a shy but he can talk to a stranger woman without stuttering.
It happens that he and Miss-Party-Breaker know each other for almost 6 months.
At first, I was wondering why he has never tried to approach her. That woman is pretty; she’s bright, has a solid education. But he has never invited her to diner or to dance.
It was quite intriguing…
Someone at the party finally explains to me the situation. At the beginning, the shy and good looking man was arrested.
Now, he wouldn’t approach her with a stick.
She is so preoccupied by her lousy love life that she still ignore him today!
“That’s a good thing, he thinks. I don’t want to have a complicated relationship“.
No one wants to be in infected by negative vibes.
Related article: to know more about the art of changing your way of thinking, read the article: Why I can’t find a boyfriend. Change your map to love.
Reasons why you can’t have a boyfriend: you need those ingredients.
Building a good state of mind is the most important step you need to make to become an irresistible woman.
The good news is that it is possible to learn to think more positively. Here are 3 ways to build a positive vibe fast.
1) Stay focused on your goal.
You may think that your goal is simply to find a boyfriend. Really? What if I say that your goal is, in fact, to find a man who is perfect for you?
You may have noticed that there are a lot of women out there who are in couple with a man who is completely incompatible with their personality and vibration.
Do you really want to be part of that club?
So stick to your real goal. And forget about the others.
Here’s a technique that will help you stay focused.
Take a notepad and write down a positive future. You can call your notebook your positive diary.
Practice to have a clear vision of what you want in your life.
But do not only write about what you want to get from your future lover. Think about those wonderful things you have to offer. Describe how you will make his life even more colorful and magic.
2) The positive in the negative.
Charlie Chaplin said once that there is something funny in every misadventure.
The worse it gets, the funnier it is.
Now this is something that is very hard to realize when you are still experimenting a difficult situation. Nevertheless, looking for the positive in a negative situation can actually make you grow. A friend of mine, who’s a brilliant writer and philosopher, said to me once that the evil is like manure. That’s where the best of things are coming from.
Think about the things you have learned from a break up or a bad date. Have you developed a new skill? Do you realize that you need to acquire a new one?
3) Increase your gratefulness
Try to be aware of what you already have. Think about your friends, your passion, your family.
I have a friend who once started to say “thank you” to those who have create a positive impact in his life. He started his list with me.
“Love you, man“.
I have to admit it, I was a bit uncomfortable.
Back then, never a man has told me such a thing.
I had rarely said it to anyone.
My friend was a biker in another life. A very, very tough street guy.
Not only I started to see him shinning more and more every day; his sign of affection and his gratitude helped me to initiate a great changing in my own life. Today, I’m no longer that very reserved young man I was 15 years ago.
That is how powerful gratitude can be. You can change yourself and you make the others feel better.
Here are 2 different ways you can use that technique.
- Write gratitude letters to people who are ( or have been) particularly kind to you. You can keep a gratitude journal and practice every day. Write about things you are grateful about. You cat, your new laptop, your apartment…
- Live in the present. Use your senses to explore the beautiful things around you. Take your time to smell the flowers you have just bought. Have you noticed how comfortable are your pajamas ? Tell me how great your new headphones sound? Do not eat too fast your next supper. Take your time to enjoy the moment.
If you can, leave your place earlier, the morning. Before you go to the office, find a park bench and listen to the birds, the sound of the wind.
The math is simple. Live and enjoy the moment. You will become irresistible.
Then you will never say: ” I can’t get a boyfriend” again.
Love, happiness, enjoy life! ♥