If you are asking yourself how to find a good husband, just start to think about shopping. Remember. What do you do when you go shopping? Maybe sometimes, you have no clue at all of what you want to buy. You just want to go browsing and if you find something great, then you will buy it. The next Friday is totally different. You have clearly in your mind the object that you are looking for. You have set the price that you are willing to pay. Your goal is just to find the right object at the right price. A lot of successful women have noticed that the last option is the best to find a good husband. In other words, knowledge is power.
Think a bit about you at first.
Look at you in the mirror. Now, take a note pad and a pen. Tell me. What do you fear the most? How about your emotional needs? Now that you have a list of your weaknesses, what are those positive things people say about you? Maybe you are a shy but very sweet person. Are you a brilliant? Describe yourself the best you can. Nobody will read you so write without any fears.
The deal breakers
Now think about your values. What is very important for you in life?
“Tell me what you pay attention and I will tell you who you are” –José Ortega y Grasset
Maybe you can write: family, children, respect, charity, God, sweetness… Here you have a good idea of your deal breakers. They are the values that you will not negotiate. Sometimes, a very short discussion will make you realize that a man do not respect women. But usually, you will have to spend some time dating him to know exactly how well he fits with you. Just remember that the deal breaker list should not be long list. If wearing shoes that you don’t like is a deal breaker, maybe you are too picky…
Who are you looking for?
“Being a good husband and a good father… that’s the most important thing I’m going to do on this earth.” – Shawn Michaels.
Close your eyes and imagine. What characteristics that man must have? Maybe he must have a good sense of humor. Would you prefer him to be tall? Would you like to be with a man who is an artist in his heart? Somebody who love literature? Here again, write your list. But don’t make it too long. Let the door open to be surprised. Life can give you wonderful things if you keep an open mind.
Now it’s time to compare your list to what you have noticed about the man you’ve met. Does he talk to you with respect? What about his values (maybe you already have heard some of them). Do you feel an emotional connection with that man? Better: do you feel that you respect his differences? Does he feel the same? Remember, it is not only about what you want. It’s about what you both want. It’s about how your desires and dreams fit together. If you are looking for a doormat, it’s up to you. I wish you will find one. You will be married for the next 20 years and you will be bored to death. The good husband is the one who will say:
“Yeah she’s like that. But it’s OK. I can deal with that. But man. I love her. She’s fantastic!”
And you feel exactly the same about him.
In other word, you fit together. This point here is very important for a solid marriage. Conflicts will happen. You will both need to be patient. You will need solving-problem skills. But those qualities will not appear 15 minutes before you start to argue. The fact that you are a perfect match at the beginning will help you to resolve this conflict.
Now, enough said about lists. Here are some ideas to find the good husband you are looking for.
Find the places they hide.
Have you heard yourself asking this question?
“Where can I find single men?”
Well, maybe you do not need to ask that question. Not right now. Just do things that you love best. Go to the places that you enjoy the most. I’m pretty sure they are men are in those places (unless your favorite hobby is to work out in a woman fitness club). Do you love to dance, to go to the museum? Maybe you love to go church, to get involved in your community. Men are there!
And what is great here is that you will already have something in common. Remember. Hobbies might lead to romance. Now, like I said, traditional feminine hobbies will not attract guys that much. And here’s another thing I would like you to remember: you will find a certain type of man in every place you go. I’m not saying that you will not find your husband in a club. But you will certainly have to look harder…
Think about dating site.
Yes, they have a bad reputation. But they are some techniques that you can use to get the most of those specialized sites. First, think before spending too much time on the free sites. They are like the bars and the clubs. Paid sites may be a better option. You will have more chances to find a man how is looking for long term relationship and marriage. If you are a practicing Christian, you can try Christian dating sites like Christianconnection .
Hmm… Are you alone?
Talking about dating, you know that a lot of men are shy? It will not help you if you are always surrounded with friends. Try to go out alone sometimes. I know, it feels weird… but men are more likely to talk to you if you are alone. I will give you here a technique that many men use when they spot a woman they like (it will be their secret, but in reverse). Let’s say that you find a man that could be a good match while you are out with your friend. Try to break away a while to give him the chance to talk to you. Better. If you can, try to approach him yourself and find an excuse to be alone with him.
That old technique is still effective. Ask around. Ask your friend your family if they know a man who would be interested to be in a serious relationship. Trust those loved ones. They really understand your personality, your taste. That’s how I met my girlfriend. It surely can work for you.