Imagine that you have the answer.
You know how to find a Christian husband.
Your story begins as simple as this: You start to talk with a man only for a few minutes and just you know.
You feel it in every part of your body.
He’s the right one. He’s the man you’ve been waiting for. A Christian who wants to find his perfect match, marry her and start a family.
“You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them”- Desmond Tutu
But to receive that God’s gift you must be ready. You will have to keep your mind open, be patient and pray a lot. You will need to keep your eyes opened to see the signal that God sends to you. Why? Your decision will play a big part in whether you will have a happy or unhappy Christian marriage. Choose the right one even among Christian men and you will have the best guarantee that your marriage will last forever.
A right decision is like building a brick house. Do you remember the story of the three little pigs?
You don’t want to be the woman who lives in a house made of straw!
Here are the some guidelines to help you build a solid house by finding the right Christian husband. But remember. Do follow your heart and hear what God has to say to you. If you do your part, the right man will come at the right time.
The story of Abraham.
This is how the servant prayed: “Lord, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today, and show kindness to my master Abraham”. Genesis 24:12
The story of the servant, looking for a bride for his master, will show you many secrets to help you find the man of your dreams. Use them and soon or later, you will be successful in your research. Do you feel in your body and your soul how important it is to let the Lord do his part in your plan? He only can finally put together all the pieces together so you can find your perfect man. This is what the servant meant when he said “show kindness”.
“I want you to swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living, but will go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac.” Genesis 24:3-4
Here, the lesson is that you must find a man that has the most things in common with you; the one who shares to most values with you. It has nothing to do with despising non-believers or someone from a different congregation. It’s about sharing common ground. Where do you find people with the same values you have? The answer is pretty simple: in your church. It would be good thing to meet new people too. So do not be shy. Go and visit other churches where you feel comfortable. But the bottom line is this: Go where Christians meet- the churches.
Christian, yes. But besides that?
“Consider the blameless, observe the upright; a future awaits those who seek peace.”- Psalm 37:37
Just looking for a man in church is not enough. I know a married woman who have been physically abused for the last 23 years. His husband is Christian enough to go church every Sunday. He is not man enough to respect his wife.
Grrr… Tell you what? You wouldn’t like him neither…
What kind of men are you looking for? Maybe what you want is a funny husband or sweet, respectful and honest man (a man can have all those qualities, by the way)? Hear what he says, how he talks about the members in his church. Is he respectful is he when talk to his mother, to his sister? Is he aggressive when he starts arguing about a subject? “A future awaits those who seek peace”. Pay attention on the way that man act with people around him. You will know by the respect and the love you feel when you see him (and the way he looks at you) that this man is the one that God has found for you. The lord has “shown kindness to you”.
How long it will take?
Have you ever consider that this may be a wrong question? Surely, you do have the right to ask it. But realize that you goal is to find the right Christian husband. The one that is perfect for you.
“One day is like a thousand years” 2 Peter 3:8
It doesn’t mean that you will have to wait 25 years to find your man. It means that God is working on his own level. Way higher than yours. Let the Lord do his job. Do yours. Be patient, keep looking, and be a happy Christian. Do not wait to find a man before feeling great! Feel fantastic now! By doing what is your responsibility as a Christian, people in your church will notice you even more.
And among them, men.
“Who should be cheerful, is not the people of God?”- Thomas Watson
Again, let the lord do his job!
How to ask someone out.
At church, you do not want be sited next to that handsome man for the next thousand years without saying anything. Why doesn’t he make the first steps? Well, maybe he’s shy. Concerning dating, men can be very intimidated…
Anyway, we are in the 21 century.
Today, you can be your own servant. Sometimes, you will have to cross that bridge by yourself to meet men. Start a conversation! Maybe you have seen something that you like in that man. Share your impression with him. Have you noticed that he’s a good singer, that he has a great voice? Ask him if he gives singing lesson. If he is that nice, you will certainly find a subject to talk about. I know, it may be scary to approach a man at first. But:
“Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power” Ephesians 6:10
Find something that you both like by asking question. Your conversation will go smoothly. A lot of men like to talk about themselves when they have a chance. Here, you will know if your handsome guy may be the man you are looking for. One thing is sure. Do not start with heavy subject right up front. Have fun talking. Dale Carnegie wrote wonderful books about how to wow people with your personality. You can find them easily in the public library near you.
“You are altogether beautiful, my darling; there’s no flaw in you” Song of songs 4:7