You are unique but not alone
Think about it. Just like you, people are looking for love; men and women. Just like you, they hope to find the perfect partner: mister right, Miss all-right. Just like you, they dream. They make some decisions. Some are good, some are bad. They take a chance, just like you do.
You are not alone.
But at the same time, you are different. You are not like everybody else. Tell me how you feel? Try to elaborate. For sure, your answer is different from– the ones my sister or my best friend gave me yesterday.
You are unique.
How can you be unique and similar at the same time? Well first, you have your own taste, your own experience. But you are a human being. You are a woman looking for love and you have a certain way of thinking.
The two groups
Ask any man, any woman how they feel about looking for love. You will find that their answers fall in two kinds of groups. One is way bigger than the other.
I want to tell you why the smaller group is the best.
I will call about those two groups the A-group and the B-group.
“Come one, Jo. You are not very original. Can’t you do better for the names?”
It’s the morning, lady. And I didn’t have my coffee yet (no coffee left).
So let’s start…
Maybe you are a part of this group. The ladies of the group a usually say this:
“You got to do what you got to do”
”Focus and don’t quit. There’s no magical tricks, no formulas”.
In one way or another, the majority of people are in that group. If you are a part of the A-group, it means that you are pragmatic. (Or at least that’s what the ladies of this group usually say). Maybe you think that you have to be down to earth. If you want to find love, you will have to work.
It means that everything cost something. You will have to put some time, keep your eyes open.
“But I’m shy”, a little voice says inside of you.
You think that you will have to stand up. You are a proud, strong woman. You will have to force yourself to approach men.
Yes, luck has nothing to do with it. Just focus on your goal and you will succeed.
If you are a part of the A-group, maybe you think that love is just a game of number. The more men you see the more you will have the chance to find the right one. This is how odds work. The more “no” you say (or hear), the more chance you will get a “yes”
Unfortunately, using the game of number hurts.
“You will be happy when you find your man. This is how life is”.
Maybe… But I will tell you this bluntly: I’m not a big fan of this way of thinking. It’s sad. It’s not fun to hear or to say “no” over and over. There a lot of suffering in this strategy. I don’t want you to suffer that much.
In fact, the ladies of the group think that pleasure in life and looking for mister right is incompatible.
I will show you that fun in life and looking for a man are two projects that can perfectly get along together.
The B group
This is the minority. This is my group and I will say it simply: I want you to be part of my team.
Sure, thinking this way can be a bit scary for some. Let’s say, it’s counter intuitive. At first, you just feel that it doesn’t make sense. And slowly, you get it.
For sure, reading Sara’s testimonial in this article will help you. But, here, I will tell the story my best friend, Nancy told me.
It’s crazy. When I was 14 years old, she lived with her parents only about 100 feet from where I lived. Her parents were rich (they are both dead now). Nancy’s mom was very controlling. So, she never could go out and play with the other kids outside. She had no real friends for years (not even at school). Her world was only this: study, home and church.
We were both in the same church! One day, she told me that she used to see me having fun with my musician fellows near the musical instruments. She just wanted to come and talk to me, but she couldn’t. Her mother would never allow this.
When I think about it, I’m a bit sad. We could have been great friends even at that time…
But I didn’t even know that she existed…
One day, what should happen did happen: the rebellion. Nancy slammed the door and said to her mom that she could call the police, the pope, god, anybody; she wouldn’t come back home.
She found a roommate, made a few friends, started to go out. This is the first time she had fun. Things were getting better (even if it was hard sometimes; I mean, you miss your parents, see?).
Nancy was now 19 years old. She has become a sweet, beautiful lady. She was almost what she is right now: a very funny girl, a bit extravagant; a strong woman who knows exactly what she wants.
At a party, a guy saw her talking and laughing with her friends in the back of the room. His jaw almost fell on the floor.
He tried to approach her. She was not interested.
She pointed her finger to a young man on the couch, half sleeping, almost drunk.
“But I like this guy”.
The man turned his head and saw that she was pointing his brother.
“No problem. I can fix that”.
Now, my best friend is with the man her life for more than 10 years.
Her man is her first boyfriend ever.
Now, I know him and I know his brother. Here what happened in the brother’s mind.
See, those two brothers are really close. Nancy is so incredible, so vibrant that the big brother said to himself:
“Man. If I can’t get her, better my little brother gets her. She can be the best gift that life can ever give to him”
And she was indeed.
So what’s my point?
Whatever happened to you, whatever you are living right now, never forget yourself.
Have a pleasant, sweet life. Be the most wonderful gift for yourself.
Go see your friends. Find out what is your passion. Grow spiritually. Find all the different ways so that your existence become just like a delicious cake (you know, the one that you like to eat slowly with a little spoon?)
The best you do in that project, the more you will become a vibrant woman.
You will be irresistible.
And then you will see The Guy coming by. At the most unexpected moment.
You don’t believe me? This is what happened to my best friend. This is the method I used without even knowing it.
It will happen to you.
Do you have any questions, any comments? Share them with us in the little box below.
Do you want to be part of the A-group or the B-group? What? A little of both? It’s possible.
Now that you know, go. And find your amazing man!
P.S. do not wait to be happy. Just be happy… Do whatever it takes.
P.S.S Happiness and peace of mind are twin brothers