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Why you can’t get a boyfriend. Stop auto sabotage your love life

Could you be your worst enemy?

Maybe you have asked yourself: “why can’t I get a boyfriend”? Here’s the story to will illustrate the problem. Stella is with her friend in a Starbucks. In the beginning of her 30s, Stella is cute (after all, Stella means star in Greek). She says to her friend that she struggles with men.

“I don’t know what it will take to find a man” she says sadly. “Sometimes time if feel that it’s impossible to find someone”.

Her friend nods. She has the same difficulties even if she doesn’t talk about it that much.

Suddenly a man comes near the ladies. He seems to be in a hurry but, in fact, he’s smiling. He takes a sip in Stella’s cup of coffee.

“What the… Shawn!”

“I have found a guy for you, Stella”, interrupts Shawn. “He’s just perfect for you.”

Stella hesitates for a few seconds. Then she asks:

“What colors are his eyes?”

Shawn is surprised.

“Is he tall?”

“W-well… He’s French”, says Shawn

Stella’s friend says that’s a good thing.

“Listen. All you have to do is to take a coffee with him”, says Shawn. “I take care of everything. I will call him; he will say yes for sure”.

“But you know that I don’t drink coffee…”

“STELLA. DO YOU WANT TO FIND A MAN, YES OR NO, DAMN IT?”

About auto-sabotage

What auto-sabotaging looks like? Basically, it’s a combination of conflicting thoughts about achieving what you really want. Think about the movie Runaway Bride. Now, I don’t know exactly what are the issues Stella is dealing with. But there’s no doubt: those troubles are slowing her down, making her research more difficult. Generally, auto-sabotage in dating comes when you put all your focus on tiny details. You’re always on the critical mode. The man has to be exactly the way you want him to be. The date has to be exactly the way you have dreamed it. Now this attitude is a symptom.

Because in fact, auto-sabotage is the result of the way to see life in general; it the result of your self-image.

Do you think that you deserve to be with a man? Tell me about your vision of life in general?

How to stop auto sabotage in your love life.

Be true with yourself

Of course, the first step will be to accept that very often, you ruin your chances to find the man of your life. This is maybe the hardest part of the process. It’s so easy to see the others doing mistakes; It’s difficult to recognize the fact that we are doing wrong to ourselves. Pay attention to your thoughts, your desire, and your fears. Would that be possible that there is a conflict? For instance, you want to find a man. But you are afraid that this man could violent or verbally abusive (just like your ex or your dad, for instance). It if that’s the case, it will take some time to admit it. No problem: take your time.

It’s your time to play

Usually when you find and admit that there’s a conflict inside of you, the rest of the process will follow naturally. Here, you will say:

“OK. If I have this issue, it means that I’m a part of the problem. So it means that I’m not stupid. It’s not over. I can do something about it”.

That’s what taking charge is all about. I don’t like the expression “taking responsibility”. Looks like this expression says that you are a coward. No. It’s just that you could not see what was going on before. Now you do. It’s your time to play.

Play the detective

Once that you have noticed that there is a conflict inside of you, it’s the time to look further. Try to find the pattern that express your fear, your state of mind (to know more about how to observe your emotions and how to deal with them, read the article How To Mend My Broken Heart? 2 solutions To Help You Feel Better).

You say that things were easier back in the days.
You think that all the good men are already in taken.
You feel in your stomach a kind of fear when you meet someone. “What if something is wrong with this guy”
You always find a reason to postpone a date
You are always focusing on unimportant details. Sometimes, you are even obsessed with them. Always looking for perfection is a way to sabotage your love life.
When things look serious, you start to pull back.
You think that nothing is free in this world. So you have to fight hard for everything. Even for love…

Get rid of those who are holding your back

You will see that you have tendencies to listen to people who share the same fear and apprehension with you. Pay attention to this pattern. Think about what those persons are saying. Are those ideas similar to those you want to get rid of? If the answer is yes, then it’s time to put some distance. It doesn’t mean that you will have to stop being their friend. You will just stop having certain discussion with them: especially those about love, life and family.

Understand that you are a woman of quality

This is the final step. It will crown all your journey. It’s time to understand that you deserve happiness, to be loved. Where will you begin? Start appreciating your own existence consciously.

What are you proud of? Think about it. Take some time to feel that moment. Appreciate the fact that you have done something great.
Have you helped somebody lately? Are you proud of it. Why? Feel the moment.
Talking about the present. Create some wonderful moments where you will be alone with yourself. You could just enjoy a bubble bath. Be attentive to the way you feel. Be close to your emotions and to your sensation.

Happiness and the feeling that you deserved to be loved comes with the intensification of those emotions and sensation you are building. It’s just like charging a batterie.

Put yourself on the charge right now, lady.

Promised?

Conclusion

This is the way to stop being your worst enemy in your love life. Be attentive, be open to your own thoughts. Be ready to accept the conflicts you have inside. Then nourish yourself with great feelings, great thoughts.

Do you have any questions? Any comments? Please share them with us. There’s a little box below. I’ll be more than happy to read your thoughts.

You understand that you don’t have to be your own enemy.

Now go! And find your amazing man.

Love,

Jo Fontaine

XOXO

Why Can’t I Get A Boyfriend: 2 Reasons And The Solutions

Dating, Well-being

Listen. I’m not telling you this just to make you feel better.

It doesn’t matter how many times you have asked: “why can’t I get a boyfriend”. The results of your research will never prove that you are a loser. In fact, they just mean that there are some logical reasons why you are still struggling with men.

Period.

Today, I’d like to share with you 2 reasons that explain why a lot of women can’t find a boyfriend or a husband today. You will see that once you know exactly what are those reasons, your life will become gradually easier; you will feel less stressed, less needy, less angry.

Men will notice those changes, for sure… So here we go!

Problems 1: you are looking in the wrong place.

This problem is very common. Of course, you have your taste. A certain type of man attracts you more. There is no mistake here; the trouble appears when you start to look for your man in a place where he rarely goes. I will give an example that I’ve seen over and over since I’m a teenager.

Let’s say that you are a Christian; you are looking for a man who has the same values as yours. You want Jesus to be the center of your family. Now, it happens that, you don’t go that often to church. So you start to look for a man who’s from “outside”. You go to the bars, to the clubs; you ask your friends if they know someone.

It’s so complicated to find a life partner, you think…. Sometimes, you feel that you will never find him.

Now, listen. I don’t say that you will not find a Christian (I mean a practicing catholic or protestant) in a club. If you ask all the dancers on the floor, you will, for sure, find someone who has the same values. But how long it will take?

Related article: 3 Right Places To Find A Man

Solution

People who have Christian values are easy to find. They go to church every Sunday. What I mean, here, is that you will have to go where your kind of man likes to go.

If you are looking for a man of culture, you will have to go to the museum, to the library. You will have to more often to the concert.

Looking for a successful man? Ask yourself this question: where do I have to go to find a rich man.

Do not forget to join some meetups: for every type of men, you will find a meetup that is designed especially for them.

Now, I can hear you say: “what if what I’m simply looking a man who is interested in marriage”? Well, studies have shown that a lot of men (outside of the traditional Christian world) will start to look for the right one to marry when they feel that they no longer fit with the “dating market”. In another word, they feel that they are getting old. Usually, those men will think that they need to go to the next level: start a family, be more stable. Many of those men are open to marriage.

If you want to be married, start right now to think about the places where you will be able to meet those single men (or divorced men).

Problem 2: inner moral problems and fear.

This problem that is not talked about that much. You know, fear can be your worst enemy. It can totally ruin your chance to seduce the man you want. Fear of rejection; fear of being stuck with the wrong guy; fear of letting the right one pass by because you have made the bad choice.

Last week, a man told me that, the lady he has met a couple of months ago has finally decided to stop dating him. Here’s the reason: she just couldn’t turn her back to all the other possibilities. Now, I’m not jugging her. A lot of men do the same. I will simply say is this: that woman is afraid to do the wrong choice; she not afraid to admit it.

But a lot of women feel the same without thinking about it. Are you one of them? If your answer is yes, I bet that, in the past, you have blown your chances with men a few times. That’s OK. We all have our issues.

Another problem: it’s when you feel a conflict between the way you have been educated and kind of life you want to live. It may seem ridiculous but that problem cause a lot stress your personal life.

A woman told me once that she was looking for a man who will be a good provider. This desire goes against the way she has been raised: a woman should be autonomous and make her own money.

“Anyway, when he will leave you, you will lose all your contacts; you will be no longer in that social environment anymore”, say her friends, and parents

The lady has not realized yet how to deal with this tension she feels inside. She thinks that what she’s looking for is wrong. It’s a kind of “sin” to be a mom at home.

So here she is looking for a different type of man. She’s not really interested in the men she meets. And every time she finds one who is OK, something always happens. End of the relation…

Solution

The solution is to do your best to notice the kind of conflict that may exist in your mind. It’s so easy to say.

“Good men in New York are all taken. Or they are gay…”

Come on, lady. Tell me about your fear? Be honest. No need to be ashamed. The reason we are on this earth is to get rid of our issues.

One by one…

Be honest.

Conclusion

Remember. If the word is responsible for all your difficulties, it means that there nothing you can do to have a better life. It’s like living is just digging your grave.

It makes me feel great to think that you are a strong woman. I invite you to think about those issues you may have.

My goal of my article is not to talk about the fact that maybe your problem is that you are too picky or maybe that you are always looking for perfection. If that’s the case, I suggest that you ask this question: why am I looking for perfection. Why am I too picky?

Now you know that there’s always a solution to whatever happens in our personal life. That solution is always inside of you.

Look in yourself and go!

Find your amazing man.

Love,

Jo Fontaine

XOXO

How To Find A Man? Stop Doing That Mistake And You Will Find Him.

Dating, Well-being

The biggest secret ever

This post will get straight to the point. I want to give you one of the biggest secret there is to find a man fast. Oh, that idea is simple; the hardest part will be to make the first step and stick to your plan.

Take a moment and listen to your inner dialogue (the way you talk in your head). How many times are you complaining about your love life? I suppose that, most of the time, it happens when you quit your office. This is when you start again the record in your head: you say that men are jerks, that most of them seem to have no ambition…

Listen, lady. You have no choice: you will have to stop moaning about your love life.

This attitude is hurting you.

You already know that your inner dialogue will establish the quality of the relation you have with men (to read more about that read the article Make a man crazy about you by respecting yourself). Let’s see how a bad mindset is a disaster for your love life.

1.You are so sure about your opinions

Like everybody, you have your own point of views, your own opinions about relationship. But when you are in the “whining mode”, your mind lacks flexibility. It’s like is not ready to accept any fresh ideas or different approaches. You think that you could write a book about how it’s difficult to start a family in this society. Everything goes so fast! Men are not keepers anymore. Back in the days, things were different. Yes, you think that you see things clearly.

Even if you see people getting together all the time.

“We’ll see in a few months”, you say.

Having strong opinions is not necessarily a bad thing. But think about that rule:

An opinion that you adopt is always wrong if it makes you feel bad.

2.No, you don’t see what’s going on.

So moaning all the time about your love life is the biggest mistake you can make. This mindset creates a perception of the world that is totally unproductive for you. It’s like you when you wear sunglasses. You think you are cool. Everything you see feels real. But all the colors you see are wrong.

You know what? Moaning is a attitude that you can’t afford. Here’s a story that happened last week to illustrate my point.

Arnaud and Sonia

Arnaud is French. After his third visit in North America, he settles in Canada, Montreal. I think it’s for good because, now, he wants to find a girlfriend.

Arnaud is sweet man. He’s very shy. When he speaks English, you can hear his French accent; you want to smile. I mean, it sounds pretty sexy. But he struggles with women. So after a long discussion, he finally tells me to try speed-dating.

The place is crowed. No doubt, the event is a success! But Arnaud is not sure about his table. He’s the only guy. 4 women are with him. Well, that’s a good thing, you would say. Well, not for Arnaud. The ladies are ignoring him. They prefer to talk about how it’s difficult to find a man. They compare their awful experiences. Every time a woman finishes her story, the others shake sadly their heads.

Arnaud drinks his rum & coke in silence. In fact, he’s totally speechless: he has been ignored in the past. But not to that point.

Haft an hour later, a woman comes near the table. She takes the empty chair near Arnaud. She’s in her mid 30s; she looks look cute with her messy hair.

“Sorry I had to take a nap. Bad day at the office…”

Arnaud smiles.

“There a place, here, where you can sleep?”

The woman nods.

“Yes. There’s a leather sofa in the back. It’s pretty comfortable.”

So this is how they start to talk. Her name is Sofia. She’s an architect. Arnaud is pretty impressed; he wants to know more about her.

Meanwhile, the 4 other ladies are keeping complaining about their love life.

At one point, Arnaud talks about the first hobby he had started to practice, once installed in Montreal; Volleyball.

Sofia raises an eyebrow. Volleyball? Hum… Why not trying something different? Suddenly, Arnaud has a date.

This is the moment when the other women notice that something is going on at their table.

“I’m going to play volleyball this Sunday with this gentleman”, says Sofia, smiling.

For a few seconds, nobody says anything.

“Well, it’s better than nothing”, mumbles finally one of the other ladies.

The point of this story is this: Don’t be one of those women.

Be like Sofia.

Conclusion: What you can do about it

What can you do once you have made the decision to stop complaining all the time about your dates? Here, the article 10 ways to complain less can be very useful.

In this article, author Lauren Stewart says that you should be ashamed of your feeling even if you have made the decision to stop complaining about your life.

I think she’s right. Nothing stops you to share your feeling with your friends. What you don’t want is to be stuck with this negative attitude.

Continue to pay attention to your thoughts, to your physical language. Practice a new sport. Be happy for the things you already have. Just do things that you love to do.

In other words, practice happiness and you will suddenly start to see occasions to meet men everywhere you go.

Now you know that a strong woman do not let a good opportunity pass by.

Go! And find your amazing man.

Love,

Jo Fontaine

XOXO

How To Find The Right Man Using The Power Of Synergy.

Dating, Find a husband, Well-being

“You can’t lose at love” You can’t lose at love – Jon Jovi

After an hour of discussion about how to find the right man, here’s my cousin who has a great flash. I ‘m still surprised about that brilliant idea. This is the great tool that I want to share with you today. It can change your life. So it all starts with that horrible feeling that stings you when you think that you are the only one who has not found a man yet. I want to show you how and why that technique might be very useful for you.

You are not alone

Imagine. You find yourself in a house party. The music is loud. The house is full packed of friends, friend of friends and colleagues. But it seems that, finally, you don’t know haft of the people here. Those new faces are men and women that are invited. You suddenly realize that there are a lot of couples.

Now you feel more alone than ever

The thing is that you are not alone. In your city, they are thousands of men and women who are looking for their perfect love partner. The problem is that everybody is looking on their own side.

All for one

“All for one, one for all- that is our motto, is it not?” The three musketeers Alexandre Dumas

Take a look around you the next time you go in a park. You know when the sun is warm and the birds are chirping? There is a good chance that you observe a group of mother who are talking, sited on a public bank. Around them, there are half a dozen of pushchairs. What are those ladies doing? It seems that they like to get together once or twice a week just to talk. Well, this is exactly what they do.

When they meet, those mothers talk about their joy of being a mother. They talk about their difficulties; they give each other some encouragement. That woman has a great solution. That lady has discovered a new product; she shares the information with the others. In other words, those mothers use the power of synergy to overcome any difficult situations, to become better moms.

But this power of synergy seems to be rarely
used by singles. Time to change that, don’t you think?

The power of synergy

OK, so what is synergy? There is synergy when you take two components and mixed them. The effect you observe is more than if you take the action of the two components and add them. Let’s take a simple example. You like to go to the gym. Your friend too. But you always go on your side, alone. One day, your friend invites you to go with her. A magic happens. Never would you have thought that training could be that fun. I mean, hey! you feel even more motivated. You train harder. You start to feel the positive effect of that new way to stay in shape. This is the power of synergy.

Here is another example. Just think about dancing. Dancing alone is OK. But when you are two, hum…

You surely can use that power of synergy when are looking to find the man of your life. Your goal will be to find men and women who are looking for a love partner; people who dream to start a family. You want to start a group that will be able to create positive energy for every member. You will help each other just like the new moms do when they meet.

Recently, I have made some research. I wanted to support groups organized by single person. Not a great success… Unfortunately, most of the so call social groups of singles are created by event organizer. But wait! Do not despair if you have problem to find support groups for singles in your area. If you can join a gang, you always can create your own.

Your own crew

Time to be a gangsta! Better: you will be the Original One. The benefits of creating your own group are:

You control the quality of your group. You decide who will be the members.
You decide what will be the rules of your group
You don’t have to wait to create a meeting. You call the shots.

How can you create your group? First, write the rules of your group. I would suggest that you write that your group is not a dumpster where everybody will throw his/her frustration. That group, the members will be there to help each other in difficult moment. Everybody will have to share their experience, their new ideas to find quality men, and women. In other words, the members must have a kind of positive state of mind even if it’s difficult to be alone. Now, there are a few places where you can find members for your group.

Remember: your group is not a dumpster

#1 Craigslist

This site has been there for a while. For you, ladies, who have no idea of what I’m talking about, think of Craigslist as a kind of classified ads section in a newspaper. This site is very popular and many people have started their groups and businesses posting ads on craigslist. I’m one of them. The problem is that many weird people crawl on this site. Prepare yourself to receive some idiotic messages. Write a kind of questionnaire that you will send to those who are interested. You want to select the men and women who merit your time. Oh, by the way: you don’t have to give your personal information right away. Talk a little on the platform.

#2 Facebook page

Well, it will be harder to start a group with Facebook. At least for free. But if can spend a few dollars every month, you will, for sure, create a solid group. Here, your goal will be to create a Facebook page and then put some ads on Facebook. Only the people that you target will be able to see your ads. Now, running an ad on Facebook is not free but it’s not that expensive either. I will not explain how to run ads but click here to watch a tutorial that will explain how to do it.

#3 meetup group

This technique is the fastest solution to create a group. But it’s the most expensive too. Start a group on meetup.com and in you will see some reaction in a few of days. You will see notices that say that people are interested to be part of your group. Just realize that all the members of your group will not necessarily come when you organize a meetup. That’s the problem with meetup.com. People there are kind of fickle…

Conclusion

Create your own group is maybe the best solution if you feel that you need some support, some positive vibes. Do not be ashamed to use that idea. Anyway, a lot of event organizers have started their dating business because they could not find a man or a woman. Enough said!

Now you know that you need to become a gangsta
lady, right?

Go create your crew and find your amazing man!

Love,

Jo Fontaine

XOXO

Online Dating Problems? Women Who Do This Feel Secure Online.

Dating, Well-being

It works, it’s scary

“Please to meet you. Hope you guess my name” Sympathy for the devil – The Rolling Stone.

You tell me if I’m wrong. You have heard a lot of advice about online dating. Women who do this feel secure online.

YOUR FRIEND: “Online dating? Are you crazy girl? Those sites are crawling with maniacs. Anyway, what they really have in their pans is not half as big as what they pretend they have!”

Sure if she knew, your friend would have suggested one of those 7 alternative to online dating that GoDates.co proposes… Those ideas are effective; no need to scare people about dating sites… Anyway, the fact is that, despite the problems you can have using with online dating, some people have found love using this technique. It works.

“Let’s give it a try”, you say.

So here you are with 2 feelings rushing in your veins. You are kind of excited; you are scared to death.

“I’ve heard about so many online dating problems, Jo. I’m not interested in living those nightmares. What can I do?”

Well, here are 2 ideas to use those dating sites safely.

#1 Stay on the website platform.

I know that a friend of mine has made a huge mistake a few years ago. I never talked to her about that. Here’s what she did: she switched too early form the dating website platform to her personal email (and worst to your personal phone) to talk to a man. That kind of move is a bad one as your security is concerned. You don’t know who you are talking to. Let’s say that you are chatting with a real jerk who seems to have no respect for women. 2 minutes after the beginning of the discussion, here he starts asking stupid question like.

“Well, tell me how big they are?”

Believe me, those idiots are doing you a favor. You understand right away who they are. No need to ask yourself any question about their quality.

It’s zero.

I mean absolute zero.

The dangerous guy

“You can call me honey but you’re no damn good for me” Dangerous– Michael Jackson.

The dangerous one are those that hide their real nature. To smoke them out, you will need time. You lose that precious time when you give some private information too soon. Remember that even if you find out that this man is… well weird, he still has your phone number.

I still remember back in the days. My sister was annoyed by a dude who had no respect at all. He just could not stop calling her .

“ Stop calling or I will tell my brother, she said”.

I was not a tough kid. But I knew a few ones…

The point is this: stay for a while on the site platform to communicate. You don’t have to rush the process. If he finds out that you are an interesting woman, waiting will not bother him that much.

Anyway, today, most men know that there are about 3 men for 1 women on those sites. If he has a brain, he will understand that he has a great opportunity to talk to a lady. But what will you talk about? Well Renee Slansky has a great answer to that question. In her post 6 online dating tips to keep you safe, she says that you should ask questions. You know, just like you would in a first date. Play the detective and try to find out who he really is.

#2 Talk to me, baby

But there will be a moment when you feel that it’s time to talk. You want to hear his voice. How does he sound? He will probably feel the same. A lot of men are sensitive to beautiful female voice (I’m one of them). Is it the time to give your personal phone number?

Well you still have an option here.

In the beautiful article on lifewire.com the author suggests to use google voice. Brilliant! I have never heard of that service before. See google voice as a privacy firewall. You can obtain a google voice phone number for free and use it to route all your phone and texts to your real phone number. Wow.

It means that you will not have to call your big brother if a jerk is bothering you.

Do you have any question, any comments? Please share your thoughts in the little white box below.

Now you know that you can use dating sites without any risk of being harassed.

Go! And find your amazing man, lady.

Love,

Jo Fontaine.

XOXO

P.S Big love for all the little sisters in the world!

3 easy visualization techniques to find a husband fast

Find a husband, Seduction, Well-being

Is that for real?

“Time is on my side, yes it is” Time is on my side – The Doors

Too many people on the net talk about visualization like it’s a kind magical ritual. For instance, all you have to do is to see your future husband in your mind and, one day, your dream will be realized. Yes lady, time is on your side! Well I’m not saying that it’s not true: in the article how to attract the man you want – the law of attraction I have said that everything that you focus your mind on will manifest itself in one way or another. But there’s a easier way to explain that phenomenon. So, that article is for you ladies who are more skeptic about the ideas of visualization and manifestation.

If it’s on TV, it must be real!

“Television rules the nation” Television rules the nation– Daft Punk

What’s great about visualization techniques is that you can see examples everyday on TV. The best teachers in the world seems to be the athletes. They just teach us what to do if we really want to have something from life. All we have to do is to follow some of their principle and watch things happen. So here we start.

#1 Getting prepared just like an athlete does.

“Hold them (your goal) in your mind until they become second nature” – Les Brown

Think about the movie Rush (2013). There’s a scene where you see how a formula 1 racing driver prepares himself using visualization. James Hunt, the great legend practices, sees the circuit in his head. He closes his eyes and holds an imaginary steering wheel. He sees every turn he will have to deal with. You can even see when he breaks, when he accelerates. Oh, he turns left and now. Amazing…

An athlete has seen his moment a thousand time in his head before the competition has started. Just like a driver or a tennis woman does, you can visualize your moment. So in that wonderful evening, you will be with the man of your dream. But tell me what exactly you will do? In what color will be your dress? Now try to imagine his presence, his attitude. How old is he? How well he’s dressed? Find the more details you can about him. Now how do you talk when he’s with you? Imagine your smile (here you can smile for real to add more weight to your visualisation. Add real physical actions to your image when you can just like James Hunt did). Now about the sweetness of your tone voice? How do you propose him to go your favorite restaurant?

By visualizing, you are fine-tuning your tone of voice; you are creating the right attitude. The one that will help you when you will date the first time the man you really want.

And you know what? When you fell that you have found the right approach, keep practicing again, and again. Just like an athlete.

What? You want more? Then watch what Emily Cook (of the US freestyle ski team) has to say about visualizing each aerial jump she will have to make in the Olympics.

When you will feel that you have found the right approach, keep practicing again, and again. Just like an athlete.

#2 visualizing with music

“Music makes the people come together” Music – Madonna

You already know that a lot of people start to listen sad song after a break up. It’s a way to say:

“This is what I’m living now. This is how I feel.”

This is how powerful music is. It helps you to focus on the present, on how you feel. But it can do better. It can help you to get (and keep) the right vibration to reach your goal.

A lot of football player or fitness fan will tell you this. Music is a great way to motivate yourself and a wonderful technique to visualize your goals. Athletes like to have in their phone a list of their favorite songs.

Why not using the same technique as you are looking for a man? And even after…

There is no right or wrong choice here. It all depends on your sensibility. The beautiful song “Just the way you are” may be a boring song for some; my sister thinks it’s a masterpiece. Some women will prefer a more heavy song like “Mama I’m coming back home”.

“Lost and found and turned around by the fire of your eyes” Mama I’m coming back home – Ozzy Osbourne

Yes, in some ways, this is a sad song. But Ozzy sings about how he feels when he’s alone. He just can’t live without his lady. Some women are really touched by that song. So if it works, if it creates the right vibration inside of you, then it’s a right choice.

The song doesn’t even have to talk about love. In fact, it could be just an instrumental song.

If it works…

Think about it. Music can shape a new attitude for you in a few seconds. I’ve seen a woman who totally changed her body language when the song Billie Jean started in a supermarket! Suddenly the lady was cool, sexy, sure of herself. Almost provocative. Think about those Latin dancers who seem to dance even if they are walking in the street. Music can help you to create the right attitude you need to realize your dreams.

You don’t have to know the “why”, the “how come”. All that matter is this: is this song give you the energy you need to attract the man you want: yes or no? If the answer is yes, add it to your list!

#3 meditation

“Sleep is the best meditation” Dalai lama

This third part of the article will be shorter. Yes, meditation is like a kind of visualization. It’s just like what you would like to see, here, is a blank canvas.

Nothing else.

I have talked about how you can put images in your mind, how you can create great emotions that will help you find your husband. Now let’s talk a bit about a technique that will help you get rid of some unpleasant emotions and images. There are a lot of books that will show you how to meditate; this is not the goal of this article here. The only thing that I would like you to remember is that you will get better and better at meditation as you gain some experience. Don’t get discouraged because:

“It didn’t work the last time I tried”.

Your first step will be to accept the ideas that cross your mind. Let it come and let it go. With time, you will see that you are more and more disconnected with those images. This will be a HUGE step.

Create what you want; reject what you don’t want. It’s that simple (but not always easy).

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Now you know how you can be irresistible and find a husband using the power of visualization.

Go, lady! And find your amazing man.

Love,

Jo Fontaine

XOXO