Lady, in this article, I will share with you a story that happened last Friday in a single dating event. Now, this story is very important for you.
It will explain very clearly what I mean when I say: “beware of your thoughts; they can ruin your love life”. Here is what you can do: every time you will ask yourself “how to find a boyfriend?” remember that story. You will then have the opportunity to take a hard look at your thoughts and make some decisions. No doubt, there’s a good chance that those conceptions are slowing you down.
Of course, taking this resolution(to observe our thoughts) sucks sometimes. But hey! If it pays, why not? See that exercise as if you were taking out the garbage.
Related article: to know more about how your thoughts affect your love life, read the article Why you can’t get a boyfriend. Stop auto sabotage your love life.
So here’s how it starts:
Got something for you, Jo
So my friend Joanne calls me. She says:
“I guess you already know why I’m calling you”.
“You just went to a single dating even”.
Joanne is a bit surprised but not that much.
“Yeah… This is what I do almost every Friday”, she mumbles
Then her voice gets all her joyful energy back. She says:
“I got something for your blog”.
“Tell me, darling”, I say, almost laughing.
I can’t find what I’m looking for
“I still haven’t found what I’m looking for”. U2
Meet Ann. Ann is pretty special because, even if she’s 39 years old, well… She looks like she’s 25.
It’s a drag for her.
“Boohoo, poor you” would say most people (OK this is what I said at first, I confess…).
But here is her problem. Ann wants to date a man of her age.
And the only guys who approach her are men in their mid- twenties…
“I just can’t find a man of my age”.
Joanne is a bit surprised to hear that problem. But soon she starts to understand. Let’s say that Ann is anxious. She wants to start a family before it’s too late. The problem is that most men in their mid-twenties are still boys in some ways.
This is probably what happened when her last boyfriend broke up with her. Her 26 years old ex-boyfriend said:
“The age difference is not a problem today. But soon, it will be. We better stop our relationship now…”
So here I’m raising an eyebrow. When I was 27, I have dated an older woman; So I know that the problem cannot be that simple.
It’s like Joanne reads my mind:
“That what’s she says. I feel that the problem is more complicated than that. That woman is a bit complicated”.
Your thoughts can stop you seeing clearly…
“If that’s your best, your best won’t do”. Were not gonna take it. Twisted Sister.
So here is Ann, complaining about her young look. She says that, today, it’s so difficult to find a man of the same age. Not older, not younger. She thinks that things were so much easier before.
Let’s think about it.
You’re 25, back in the days. At that age, you should already have a fiancée. Or something was wrong…
This social pressure was true for men and women. How could you expect a promotion in your office if you were not married?
And she keeps talking to everybody who’s ready to listen to her. Yada, yadi, yada.
But the things is that, in the group there is a handsome man. He’s seriously interested in Ann. But she doesn’t even notice him. She keeps whining about her sorry love life.
Sad thing. Because that man is 41 years old… Just perfect for her.
You are responsible for your thoughts
“Hello. Is it me you’re looking for?” Hello- Lionel Richie.
I nod as I hear the end of the story. To tell the truth, I’m not very surprised. Nor should you. Your love life is the result of your thoughts. It’s not the society, the fact that men have changed, the internet or the fact that the male identity has been broken lately.
“How did that guy reacted, I ask? Have you talked to him?”
“Hum… yes. He was disappointed. He said to me: I don’t have a change with her…”
Joanne makes a pause and finally says:
“I had to cheer him up. I just said the truth. Ann is pretty complicated…”
Related article: to know more about how your thoughts will attract the love life that fits with your vibration, read the article How to attract the man you want – the law of attraction.
Your thoughts will make or ruin your love life. Period.
I know that the hardest will be to accept this. We are responsible for our thoughts. I’ve been there. My best friend have been there. And so my sister.
See it this way. Can you afford to lose opportunities to meet good men? How many nice people have your let pass just below your nose because you were trapped in your thoughts?
Realize this. This is not too late. You can make things better. But one thing is for sure: you got to stop that “love wastage”.
Related article: to know more about how you can change your vibrations to attract men, read the article 4 tips to attract a man now.
Do you have question? Any comments? There’s a little white box below, just for you. I will be more than happy to read your ideas and thoughts.
Now you know that there is no need to let good men pass by because you are trapped in your mind.
Go, lady! And find your amazing man!