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5 Signs he’s the right guy for you

June 1, 2018 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

Are those signals for real? I mean, can you really find signs that a man is the right guy for you? Yes! They are some indicator that will flash and tell you this.

“Girl, this guy, hummmm… Pay attention. He may be the one”.

When you feel that “Beep, beep, beep”, lady, do something it. Don’t let that man go awaaaay!

But what are those signs? Here are 5 of them.

You’re so sweet!

“I just call to say I much I care” -I just call to say I love you- Stevie wonder

I talked about that aspect of the relation you will have with a man in this article. I was talking about how you can bring the best out of him. You are ready to help a man to make his dream come true. Sometimes, you even believe more in himself that he does. This is what a woman does when she’s in love (at least, in my experience). A man will notice that you are on his side and if he feels that he can do even more things when you are around (because sex is a powerful source of energy) then you are that close to be the only one in his heart. Now you say:

But how about me?

It doesn’t matter how cute or how romantic he is. I just want to ask you this question: do you sometimes talk about your passions, your goals to that man? Yes?

If yes, how does he react?

Replay the movie in your head. What’s his face expression. Does he want to learn more about your passion? Does he lean closer to you? Maybe he has some ideas to help you reach your goal. When you are in doubt, does he encourage you to go ahead? Is he supportive? Now if you feel that everything you say get in the left ear and leave his head by the right ear, maybe it’s because:

He’s having a bad day. So you can’t really blame him, right?
He has nothing between his ears and the sound just go through his head without any obstacles ( well, hey! You can’t blame him)
He’s not interested in you as a person.

Usually, you will not have clear ideas of this signal at the first date. But sometimes, even at that moment, you can have a good grasp of the kind of man you are dealing with. Just remember that men are different. Most of us are not as proactive to help as you do, ladies (at least not, at the beginning of the relation). Maybe it’s unfair, but it’s just like this. But remember. Think about that cutie. If he really cares, he will at least show his interest. He will ask questions to know more about your dream. Maybe he will even make some suggestions.

Beep, Beep, beep! A good man may be around you…

How did you know?

“Sometimes, the heart sees what is invisible to the eye” – H Jackson Brown Jr.

Another good sign is that, sometimes, you have the impression that he sees and feels something even if you don’t say anything. If it happens, it means that there’s something between you, guys. Let’s say that you are about to get sick in the office. But you are a tough girl, right? So you want to stay until your job is done. You don’t want anybody to see that you are in a bad shape. Now here’s, that cute guy you like so much. He passes near your desk, hesitates, stops and walk back. He looks at you a bit concerned and say:

“Hey, are you alright?”

This guy has some empathy. Does it mean that he’s in love? Not necessarily. Do not fall in that trap of thinking that a sweet man acts this way because he’s in love with you (it’s like men who think that a woman who smiles at them means that she want to have sex with them).

But add this signal to the one above and the next one and you will have a pretty good idea of the man you observe. Maybe you have a good reason to like that guy…

Hummm. It feels good

“There is a kind of serenity in love which is almost a paradise”- Alain Badiou

OK. Here, I’m not talking necessarily about sex. Just tell me. How do you feel when he’s near you? Do you feel great, relaxed? Do you feel like you are breathing some fresh air? Do you feel that, suddenly, everything is going to be OK when he’s with you? Yes? Wonderful! Well if you have that feeling every times he’s around, it because your sweety brings a warm, relaxing, calming element in your life and you just love it.

Beep, beep, beep!

She’s just fine like that

“I took the good time. I’ll take the bad time. I’ll take you just the way you are.” Just the way you are- Billy Joel

Yeah, that song is just a classic. My sister loves that song. Here, I’m pretty sure that you already have a good idea of my point. You will notice this sign only after a few dates. Some parts of your personality (that you would prefer to hide) will slip out of your hands. How does he react? Do you feel judged? If you feel that you are living a love story in a free judgment zone, you may have a wonderful signal right in front of you. In another article, I’ve talked about perfection in relationship. How do you feel about that word? Does it refer to the absence of flaw? Maybe a perfect boyfriend means to you someone who does exactly what you want, when you want it. Well again, if you look for a doormat, I hope you will find one. But perfection is more interesting, more fascinating than that. Perfection has all to do with acceptance in relationship. The more your man will know you, the more you will know if he’s the right one for you. He will know your weaknesses, your fears. Does he still have strong feelings for you anyway, regardless of those flaws? In other words, do you feel that he says:

“I know that she’s like that. It’s OK, I can deal with that. But wow! I just love that woman”.

My life is just fine. With you, it’s even better!

This sign comes with the first point in some ways (is he interested in what you like, do and dream about). You already know that having a great life is up to you; this is the golden rule (click here to read more about that golden rule. It doesn’t matter how old you are. Follow that rule and you will have a more pleasant life). Here, ask you yourself. Do I feel that he adds more positiveness in my life? If your answer is yes, you may have a winning ticket.

Take your time to answer to each of those points. Some signs will show themselves slowly. Others will pop out right in your face. Remember that both good and bad signs are what you are looking for: what you want to know who is that guy you are really dealing with.

Do you have a question or do you have other positives signs that come to your mind? C’mon, girl, don’t be shy. Share your comments with us!

Now go, lady. And find your amazing man!

Love

Jo Fontaine

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How to get a man to marry you. Give his sense of freedom

May 15, 2018 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

The number one fear

What exactly makes a man running away every time he hears about marriage? How to make a man want to marry you? Well you already know deep in your heart the reason. He seems to be jealous of his freedom. But the feeling is way stronger than that: He’s afraid to lose it.

See Andrew. He’s drinking a beer in a bar, alone. He thinks about one of his best friends, Justin. Just a few months after he got married, things started to change. He slowly stopped to see his friends. Now, it seems that even his motorcycle is for sale.

Justin is selling is bike?!!!

No doubt, for Andrew. Justin is doing time, now. He doesn’t even own his house. The only room he has left is the garage. For now.

Here’s the thought that pops in Andrews’ mind.

It resounds in every part of his body:

“I will never find myself in that kind of situation. I will not get in jail. Hell, no!”

This is the fear that will be your obstacle if you want your man to marry you. What can you do? Well to start, know that you can’t fight that feeling in an open battle. Do that and you will lose the war. What you can do, though, is to create a certain kind of mood that will melt away that fear. One of the best ways to do that is to give your man a certain sense of freedom. Soon or later, it will pay!

Space can be a good thing

What? Freedom* Why would he need freedom? Doesn’t he love me? I’m pretty sure he does. But in your love story, there may be something frightening for your man. It’s like someone behind the scene is whispering:

“What if you lose yourself? You will have no identity. You will be totally remodeled, with no space to breathe.”

If that fear is there, why not using it to get what you want? You know, just like judo. You will use your opponent’s weight against itself. Realize that space can be a good thing for your couple and you will open unsuspected doors to your couple. You will be happy of the new quality of your relationship. Here’s why:

Space builds sexual tension

You already know how you feel when you missed your loved one. I remember when I was working at night in a Big hardware store. Gosh! I missed my lady. You don’t have to stay away for a month. Only haft a day can be enough sometimes. Do your things and let him think about you. Let him create some sexy movies in his head with you as the main star. Girl, watch all the sparks flying all around the next time you will see each other!

“Ohh baby, I’m hot just like an oven” – Sexual Healing (Marvin Gaye)

Helps the other relationships outside the couple.

Do you have sometime the feeling that you do not see your friends as much you would like? Give yourself some time to see your best friends. Let your man know that, for you, friendship is important in someone’s life: he shouldn’t stop seeing his best buddies. At first, there a good chance that he will be a bit surprised. Like he doesn’t believe his hears. For a reason or another, this is not what most men expect a woman to say (in fact maybe he will think that it’s a kind of trap, a game you play). But very soon, he will realize how different you are. That’s a good point for you.

If your boyfriend feels that he still can hang around with his friends without getting some heat the next time he will see you, he will start to make this connection in his head:

“Hum… Being with her is not like being in jail”.

Help you to reconnect with your desires

This point is a bit like the first one. When you miss a bit someone you love, you just remember why that person is dear to you. Of course, here, I say a bit. You already have someone who loves you. You do not want to suffer for no reason, right? Do not stay apart for too long, guys. As you do your things, his image will pop to your mind. Believe me, the same will happen to him if he’s in love. Thinking about you will create such a wonderful feeling inside that, sometimes, he will smile. This sensation is awesome! This is something that men are craving for (OK this is a secret that we keep because we like to act like we are tough- you know what I mean).

Encourage him in his projects

Now here is a great technique to create some space and, at the same time, will help you to get closer to him at the same time. Yes, there is a way to create some mental space; you can use that idea as much as you want to. All you have to do is to encourage him in his projects. I already shared with you how my girlfriend used that technique on me (read the article how to get a man to fall in love with you). Soon I realized that it wouldn’t be the last that she intended to use it. Here’s what happened.

After a few dates, she realized that music was not my only passion. I love martial arts (man, I need to train a little bit more…). One of my dreams was to find a place where I could learn Jeet Kune Do. It is not easy to find a JKD dojo. A dojo is a place where you learn and practice a martial art. Most of the schools of this style, created by Bruce Lee, were in California. Now I don’t know how she did, it but she found a place where I could learn this martial art. All I had to do is to take the bus for only 30 minutes!

“What?!!”, I said.

I was amazed. First, I still don’t remember when I talked about martial arts with her… We were always talking about music, movies, stand up comics… Maybe she asked one of my friends…

I was totally seduced. One of my dreams was realized. Thanks to her.

How can I ever feel in jail with her?

This flame inside of me. I ‘m hearing secret harmonies– A kind of Magic- Queen

Do your own things

But how about me, you ask? Will he be on my side, help me to pursue my dreams, or at least encourage me? Well I can’t give an answer to your question. The only thing I can say is this: If he loves you, you will show you in one way or in another that he’s on your side. He will let you know that he cares about you.

Now if he doesn’t, ask yourself this question:

Have I you made the right choice?

Just be careful. Maybe he has no idea of how he can help you pursue your dream. Maybe he doesn’t know that this project is that important for you. (Yeah, men can be that dumb sometimes… If you don’t say it clearly, we have no clue…)

Bottom line, think twice before you make a fast decision.

For your part, just continue to practice your passion. Go see your friends. The best way to give your man his sense of freedom is to enjoy your own space. Then go back in his arms.

Do you have any comments, any questions? Don’t be shy and share what you think in the little box below.

Now, passionate woman, go. And have a fantastic life!

Love

Jo. Fontaine

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How to get a man to commit to you

April 21, 2018 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

Here’s the story…

When things are a disappointment, try not to be so discouraged. -Carol Burnett.

Cindy really likes that man. When she sees him, she feels that her heart will just pop out of her chest. Boom-boom, boom-boom… but then, something happens. It’s like the violins stops to play their romantic concerto. Something big happened, for sure. A love story cannot end that abruptly, right? Cindy starts to complain about men.

“How do you get a man to commit to you? Men suck” she mumbles.

But, hey, what about that man you are dating?

“He’s afraid of commitment?

Now, Cindy talks about her fears, blame him for her problems. What is astounding is that Cindy has been with him for only one week.

How can you really know a person in just a week?

Kind of short, no?

To commit? Yes, but for a reason

“I love thinking about the film, the project and committing as much as possible”– Vince Diesel

I will tell you why what Vince Diesel said is important. It really describes how men think. They want to commit for a reason. That reason is something that will shake them inside, give them some energy, some drive.

The reason “because you have to“ is not enough.

Listen. I had the reputation to be “noncommittal”. Last week, my best friend looked at me, got closer and whispered.

“I never thought that it would last for that long…”

I remember that she almost dressed herself like Cupid to match her neighbor and me. Now I feel that she miss me a bit. My girl friend is a bit jealous. I can’t see my best as much as a used too.

Realize that the idea of “noncommittal” men is wrong. Men do commit. But they commit for a reason. Like I said, for most of them, the reason “because you have to” is not enough. Do that exercise: count around you how many people commit themselves out of pressure.

Pressure because this is what good people do.
Pressure because they are sick and tired of being alone.

It you want to translate that feeling men have in only one formula, you will end up with that equation:

To commit = Jail Sentence.

The good news is that you can totally mess up that law. You can almost make the man you want forget that formula. This is the power have, ladies. You have heard about those kings who decided to renounce to their throne for love. You have heard stories about guys who decided to confront their dad, defend the woman they loved and, finally, got disinherited.

This is the power you have (know more about how irresistible you can be, read the article how to find your mate. Be irresistible).

Rock his world

I wanna rock with you (all night). We’re gonna rock the night away- Rock with you. Michael Jackson

Feel the power you have. The power to rock his world. Understand that, now, and you will find more and more different ways to shake his knees. Usually, we hear that sex is what man are looking for.

Well, yes…

But there’s something men crave for. It’s that emotion, that energy a woman can create in their mind, in their body. We just love that boost. We feel that we can create anything, overcome any obstacle, and be successful in anything we want to do.

Man! That drive better than sex.

Now realize that men can be successful on their own (you can find plenty of examples). But it’s just how succulent what you offer is: with you, men feel that they can do a lot of things without even trying.

I still remember that Monday morning in the beginning of my relationship with my girlfriend. No Monday morning blues. I knew that this day would be a hard one in the office. Who cares?

“Bah! I can handle it. No problem, I thought”

The more your man feels fantastic when you are around, the more he will be yours. With you in his life, he will slowly dissolve many of his fears about commitment.

Until he says in his head: “why not? Sounds good...”

Got yaaa!!!

The Mind Tricks

Be careful with withholding or mind trick. Men have an excellent mind trick detector in their brain (especially as relationship is concerned). Yes many of them will fall in the trap. But it is because they just don’t know what to do in that situation; so they just close their eyes.

But they know.

Why play the hard to get game when you just have to continue to do your thing as usual? You still have friends, family, and colleague. Do you have a hobby? Maybe you like to go to your yoga class twice a week. Continue to live your normal life. It means that he has to earn you. He will understand that clear and simple message and will respect you for that. You don’t have to play any kind of game. A woman who as her own life is an interesting woman. It means that she’s not boring that she will not try to restrict the space a man needs to breathe. What a woman you are!

Ultimatum

The famous ultimatum is not necessarily a mind trick. You can get exactly what you want with that technique; but it can backfire on you later on.

Picture yourself in that scene. You know that your man is totally hooked. So you let him know that it payback time. It’s the ring or it’s over.

Handsome, you will have to pay with a life commitment.

Tell me what will happen.

Well the first possible scenario will be that soon or later, he will run away.

The other possible is that he’s afraid to lose you. In that case, your strategy works. But here, ask yourself this question: Do you want a couple, a marriage based on fear? If you do, go on. Just know that one day, your husband will remember of the reason why he got engaged (the ultimatum). It will happen probably when your couple will live a difficult moment. At that moment, he’s almost gone.

Having a couple based on fear is like building a sand castle. The first wave will demolish everything.

I Fell Like A Million Bucks

“I like the feeling you’re giving me, just hold me and I’m in ecstasy”- the way you make me feel. Michael Jackson.

The trick is to make him want more of you. It happens that most men like to chase. That’s good for you. What’s the bait? Well, it’s you. Or to be most specific, the way you make him feel. Until you come simply with the subject as you talk to your friend you said well by boyfriend said. We will talk more about how to make him feel fantastic when you are around (and even when you are not there). But here are two ideas that you can do right now.

Know what he likes: The best thing you can do is to make him discover some new stuff in the domain he likes most. I still remember the day my soon-to-be girlfriend said to me:

“I know that you just love funk music. Do you know Bohannon?”

“Bo… Who?”

I could not believe my ears when I heard the bass line of let’s start the dance.

What a groove! Man, it was like I was in a trance.

And it’s because of her.

Wow… A woman who can make me discover some great music (even if she’s not a musician)? Hum…

Do something like that for your sweetie and you have your own apartment in his mind. Maybe, one day, you will own all the building…

The other idea work best if you feel that you can openly flirt with the man you want. You already know that even if he’s not in love yet, he likes you. Find funny sexy words to show that you like him and that he’s desirable. It’s even better if he’s in front of his friends.

“Hey, Handsome. Can I play with your toys?”

A million bucks.

Ladies. We can’t live without you…

You now know what to do to make him feel great when he’s around you? Go and find your amazing man!

Love

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Jo Fontaine.

3 ways to find out who is your perfect husband

December 31, 2017 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

What a TV show!

Steve Harvey was invited in a TV show host by Oprah. A woman in the audience stood up and started to read her list of qualities that her perfect husband should have.

You know, the list.

(You probably have one. Don’t you ladies?)

The woman was reading, and reading, and…

Steve Harvey couldn’t believe his ears.

I mean, gee… That list was long. Very long….

I asked myself:

“How can she go through that list without even breathing? That’s amazing!”

The guest raised his hand and stopped the reader. He said very kindly:

“It seems that the person you are looking for is God”.

The crown busted out laughing.

Too much is just like not enough

It will not serve you well to have a list that long.

Think about your man.

If you write all the qualities you can think about on your paper, it means that, maybe, some problems are slowing you down. For instance:

You do not know exactly what you are looking for. So you write all the possible qualities a man should have -so you don’t have the feeling that you are missing something.
You think a lot about what you want; not that much about what you can give. This is a shaky way to start any relationship. Say someone asks you what do you have to offer to the other. If your answer is “me”, well maybe you put a bit too much of your ego in your hunt for a perfect husband. Remember that golden rule: what you ask should be what you give.
Maybe you are too influenced by your readings, TV or the movies. Many men and women have discovered that problem as they were looking for their mate.

Now here are different techniques to help you find out who is your perfect husband.

Use those ideas to have a clear vision of the man you are looking for.
3 ways to find out who your perfect husband is

Play with the time machine

Imagine

See what your love life will be in, let’s say, 5 years.

“Vision is the art of seeing what is invisible to others”- Jonathan Swift

This technique is old. But it works

So why not create a movie in your head.

Your movie.

It can be a bit difficult at first to have a clear vision of how you want your love life to be. You will write things that any women can write.

“My husband is a sweet man that is faithful, and is a good father”.

That’s ok.

But you are not like every woman. You are… You. Your couple will be different, special. Why? Well maybe you are a writer and you would like to be with a man who loves books. Not necessarily somebody works in the industry but someone who could give you positive feedback about what you write.

Are you following me?

Be the more precise and concise possible. But write enough to have a beautiful movie in your head.

Have your personal manifesto.

In this section, you will write your beliefs. How you see yourself today? How you will act in the future with people around you? No doubt, your text will change a bit with time. But with a pen in your hand and a paper, you can create a great starting point that will help you reach your goals.

What are the values you consider very important in your life? Maybe it’s:

Family
Respect
Fear of God
Freedom

“Whenever I go meeting the public… spreading a message of human values, spreading a message of harmony, is the most important thing”. Dalai Lama

Here, in the quote, the Dalai Lama is not talking only about what is important to him. He tells us what he wants to offer to the world.

You can do the same.

Write about what you will give to your loved one. Remember to use strong and affirmative language. The best is to use the present tense. It will be easier to write your text with words like “I will” and “I am”. This technique will help you to understand what kind of couple you are looking for.
3 ways to find out who your perfect husband is

Go work inside your head.

Once you have made your movie and your manifesto, it’s time to go inside your head and work on this belief: what you desire the most is what you will have.

“Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea, and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be …” Mark 11:23

You can make your mind to understand that if you are sincerely about your desire, it will become reality. Things and events will align themselves to help you realize your dream.

To do that, you can use repetitions of affirmation. This was one of the techniques that Napoleon Hill liked to recommend.

Your mind learns a lot by repetition.

To repeat a strong and positive statement is like recharging your batteries. You conceive a positive energy. Your mind and subconscious get used to it.

They just love that feeling it creates.

So they finally decide that your affirmations are true.

Now, your head will use all its power, all its imagination to create ideas and plans to realize your dream.

Bottom line, you create the energy to make that little bunny run.

It will just keep going and going…

Here are some ideas of affirmations that you can create.

I am highly driven and motivated to be happily married.
I am on the path to happiness
My mind is focused on creating a beautiful and happy family
I have an unbreakable confidence in myself. ( Napoleon Hill)
I am fully capable of achieving whatever I set my mind to. (Napoleon Hill)
I will think positively and create a wonderful life for myself and my husband.
I am starting to effortlessly attract good men
Men are starting to notice how positive and vibrant I am
I am developing an attitude of a vibrant and fascinating woman.
I naturally attract positive good men.
I enjoy meeting men
I deserve to be loved and married.
I believe that I’m an affectionate woman
Meeting men is easy for me

It’s up to you

Things will not happen just like that.

You got to make the magic happen.

What you will get first is the right attitude. Then some great ideas will come to you-form nowhere it seems. Use them. Go for it. Keeps that new energy flowing in your veins and you will start to attract more good men.

P.S. Dare something new every day.

Love

Jo Fontaine

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