Today, we are going to talk about how we can flirt like crazy with a man over texts.
The only tool you will need is, of course, your phone. But it doesn’t mean that this is an easy task. At the end of this article you will know why it is difficult to send flirty and sexy messages without being too obvious and what you can do to get those obstacles out of your way.
Here we go!
Flirt with your phone. Here’s the game plan.
Here is something very important you need to remember.
This simple truth will spare you a lot of the frustration.
Flirting with text messages can be complicated because the guy you’re flirting with cannot see your body language.
Worse: he cannot hear the tone of your voice.
Here’s the fact: specialists say that 70% of communication is nonverbal.
It doesn’t seem to be good news…
On one side, you know that you will have to give your best. You only have one chance to get noticed. But on the older side you realize that you only have 30% of your weapon to show him how charming you are and make him want to know more about you.
How can you get out of that catch-22? You will have to rely on his imagination.
And it happens that men have a lot of imagination!
How to please a guy over text
Your goal is to flirt with him in such a way that he prefers chatting with you. His buddies and the competition will have to wait: he enjoys chatting with you.
Like I said in a previous article, a great sign that a man is falling in love with you is that he starts to neglect his friends.
To get there, you will have to follow some principles. Keep those guidelines in mind and you will be ahead of a lot of women. It is as simple as it can get.
First, we need to talk about the kind of message men hate to receive.
Long messages.
I don’t know how many men have complained about those long text messages they get from women. (I have to confess, I did complain about it once or twice).
“Jo. Look at this text message; man, it looks like a novel, says Steph, the drummer of my band… ”
Ladies, please send short messages.
You do not want to bore the guy you have just met to death.
Your goal is to show how wonderful you are. You want to hook him with your funny, intriguing and light conversation.
You will have plenty of time to torture him with long text messages when he will be your boyfriend. For now, he must be intoxicated with your text. So where do you start?
Send messages talking about things that you have in common.
I’m talking here about things that you have shared in a conversation. This is the best way to separate yourself from the competition. Your secret weapon to be unique, special in his mind.
I have always been amazed by the good memory a woman can have when she likes a man. It seems that you, ladies, can remember all the little details about his passion, his preferences.
“The band you were talking about just have released a new album. They are coming this month. You will go?”
That text message is nice, sweet and effective. Answer almost guaranteed.
Here’s another idea:
” I want to start a new series. Which one should I start to watch?”
Of course, you need to have a great discussion about passions before you send this type of message.
The idea is this: use that technique with all the discussions you have with your crush. It’s simple and effective.
And keep it short!
Related article: to know about flirting with your man over text, read the article 3 tips to drive him crazy about you with text messages.
Flirty text messages you can send to a guy you just met.
“Well, Jo. This is not really like flirting“, you might say.
I wanted to share with you the basics of communication with a man using text messages. Now it’s time for the juicy stuff.
Like I said at the beginning of this article, men have a lot of imagination.
Have fun and use that sweet weakness to your advantage.
You do not need to flirt openly to create the right effect. In fact flirting without being obvious is even more exciting and sexy for a man. You leave a lot of space for his imagination
That’s why your goal is to create a sexy movie in his head. Without saying much…
In the next section, I will talk about some examples from my personal life. I will share some flirty texts that I have received. My very shy girlfriend sent most of those messages.
Text flirting examples. Flirt without being obvious.
“You know you’re the best to text me when I’m taking a bath“.
I didn’t know how to react the first time I got that message. Should I laugh? Should I apologize? One thing is for sure: a sexy movie started in my head: you know, a lot of bubbles, a cute lady relaxing, 2 beautiful legs getting out of the water…
Could not help it…
Here’s another example:
“You are going to Nancy’s party tomorrow? Her neighbor will be there. I don’t like that woman. Wait till she sees my new sexy dress. She’s going to hate me. She can drop dead.☠”
That message uses a powerful technique: You are or you will be sexy. But it’s not because you want to seduce a man: you are using your sex appeal for another reason.
The next text uses the same approach. It’s a bit more obvious but it’s pretty funny.
” Right now, I’m trying my new underwear . I love Victoria’s Secret.”
In the man’s mind this message is girly and very sexy. But everything happens in his imagination.
To finish, here’s a classic flirty text. This one is great because you can send it at any time during a conversation.
” Oh, shoot… I was drinking water and I just dropped it all on my tee…”
Yes, maybe you need to feel more comfortable with him before you send this message.
But can you guess what image will appear in his mind?
Easy guess…
Men are easy to manipulate.
And it’s perfect like this.
Related article: to know how to arouse a man with image words, read the article Find and seduce your man with text messages.
Seduction at long distance. Yes but be cautious!
Like I said, try to flirt low-key when you are texting.
It means that you want to sound casual yet sexy and intriguing at the same time. You do not want to sound desperate.
You already know that dirty messages are for your boyfriend or your husband, right?
The idea is that you don’t want to get embarrassed it things do not work you the way you want: there is always a possibility that your crush lets you down.
If he does, you can always find someone else without blushing, asking yourself:
” What if he shows the messages to his friends?”
Follow the rules and use the techniques that I have shared with you in this article. In case things do not turn out the way you want, you will be more than happy if he shows your conversation to his friends. His buddies will realize how cool, sexy and funny you are.
His lost…
A man who knows that you are special.
Your life and relationship coach,
Jo Fontaine
Love, happiness, enjoy life! ♥