Today, we are going to talk about how to make a man want to marry you.
You’ve been seeing this man for a while and at some point, you feel deep inside that this is the person you want to marry. Now, the only thing left to do is to make him realize that you are the person woman for him. Your goal is now to make your man want to marry you.
Sure, you can pass by jewelry stores and sigh every time you see an engagement ring. Many men will get the message. But that doesn’t really guarantee your guy will even consider the possibility of getting married. What could you actually do to make him consider marriage? Well, I will give you a few tips that you can follow to realize your dream.
And, don’t worry: none of this involves changing yourself to fit someone else’s standards of marriageable.
Neither will I talk about manipulative techniques to play with his mind (to know why, keep reading). This is an honest way to make the other person see you a little differently.
What Makes a Man Want to Marry a Woman
Well, it could be a lot of things. It could be the smaller things adding up to contribute to what makes a man want to marry a woman. It could be that most of the obstacles that could have stopped him to propose have been removed. Like I said in my free eBook Irresistible: How To Make A Man Fall In Love With You Fast, there are many types of men, as dating is concerned. Each type comes with its own desire, fear and motivation. All men are not hunter.
You need to know what type of men is your guy.
Now, the problem why he has not proposed yet could be simply that he already sees you as someone he wants to try spending the rest of their life with. But he isn’t even aware of it himself.
It might sound strange but men, sometimes, have problems to see further than the tip of their nose.
Here’s an example: it took me 3 comments from my friends to realize that the woman I was dating was now my girlfriend. After 2 weeks of dating, she was already the lady I wanted to spend all my time with. But I started to use the word “girlfriend” 1 months after our first date. The point is this: maybe your man could consider marriage; but he sees it as something distant in the future and not something he wants right now.
The challenge you have is to make him see that it’s time for the two of you to get married.
What Makes A Man Want To Commit
You already know that most relationships have stages, right?
You, guys, might have first established that you like each other and started dating at one point. Maybe the entire dating thing was casual until you decide you are committed to one another and can proudly call each other your boyfriend and girlfriend. Then, comes the next stage and this is where you are facing a small bump.
You’ve already transitioned to the next phase and you have no idea how to get your man to propose. Truth is, men have a harder time shifting from one phase to another. They need to let a phase settle in, see how they’re doing in it before they are ready to take the next step. And it could be the major reason he hasn’t proposed yet because he still hasn’t been able to evaluate how well both of you are doing in the current phase.
Getting married is not a desire, so to speak, for most men. It’s a step. What makes a man want to commit is the assurance that they are making the right choice. He wants to make sure that marriage is the right decision for them just as dating has been. You two are already there, you just need to make him see that it is.
So, let’s take a look at some ways you can make him look deeper into your relationship.
Related article: to know more about what you can do to make a man want to marry you, read the article: 3 reasons why your man hesitates to marry you and what you can do about it.
1. Start With Loving Yourself
Yes, I know…
Everyone preaches this. It sounds cheesy, right?
What loving yourself has to do in the process of making a man want to marry you? A lot- way more than you realize. No matter how cliché the concept of loving yourself seems, it’s something mentioned again and again because it is the truth. If you haven’t figured out how to love yourself, you won’t find it easy to love someone else.
See It this way. People who do not love themselves are difficult to live with. Sure you can date someone filled with self-doubt. But deep inside you know that, somehow, the relationship will not work out. Keep in mind that your man wants to be sure to make the right choice before he makes the step. I will say it bluntly, in men’s language, to make that point clear: He doesn’t want to get in trouble. It’s unfair, I know. But, as marriage is concerned, most men follow this rule.
The right step = not getting in trouble.
You might think that you are ready for the next step in the relationship. But if you are still plagued by self-doubt and insecurities, it probably shows. Maybe he’s willing to marry you but isn’t sure he should do so: regardless of what you think and what you want, you actually aren’t ready for marriage.
Realize that, if you don’t like yourself, if you are constantly finding faults in your own personality and looks, no other person or achievement will make you feel better. It becomes obvious to your man that you’re unhappy; Somehow, he might feel that he’s not good enough for you.
If there’s one rule you should follow, it this one: no matter what kind of problem you face in life, the solution starts at home. Self-love is the most important ingredient for an happy love life and marriage. If you try your best for yourself, you will not be devastated.
No matter what the result is, you will be able to stand up and start walking again.
In other words, if he simply doesn’t want to marry you, you will be unhappy for a while. But at the end of it all, you would be able to move on and start a new relationship.
2. Communication is The Key to Every Lock
It doesn’t matter how much you love your man: if you aren’t able to communicate with him, your relationship will fail.
Lack of communication complicates every single interaction you have and it doesn’t apply to your partner alone, but to any relationship you have.
Basically, communication is an exchange of information.
Usually, bloggers and authors will talk about how an honest conversation with the other is important: this is the best way to sort out most problems. True. But as relationship is concerned, you need to remember that your goal is not just communicating for communicating.
No simple exchange of information will solidify a couple.
What you want is to create emotions with the thoughts you share with your man. The best way to solidify the emotional bond you have with your man is to talk about simple things that makes you think about him. There’s a good chance that you will touch him straight to the heart. Small things can create the best effect: a song, a movie, a deodorant perfume (yes, it worked on me!).
A lot of things can be shared with your man. Just keep in mind what deeply motivates him to be with you. And use communication to arouse and satisfy that desire. From the start of your relationship to the entirety of your marriage, this type of communication will play a big part in how long you two manage to hold on to each other.
The point is this: Usually, we talk about communication as a tool to prevent or resolve conflict. I would like to invite you to think about communication as your secret weapon to create the type of emotion your man deeply needs.
A relationship based on communication is a happy relationship and if you want to know how to make a man want to marry you, this is a major ingredient of your success. When he sees the relationship is going well and knows that if it wasn’t, you wouldn’t communicate with him this way, he can be assured that he could marry you without being afraid of getting into trouble.
Related article: to know more what can make a man want to get deeper in a relation with you, read the article: 2 ways to get your man to commit to marry you.
3. A Change in Plans
Habits are an awful thing. Sometimes you get so used to see things going on a certain way that you fail to consider that the situation could suddenly change. There’s a glitch in the Matrix!
Think about it: the problem could be that your man has become so used to have you around, watching a movie with him on Friday night, and eating dinner together on Saturday. He never considers that things could change: he is too used to it. In his head, you two are somewhat already married, and he just doesn’t think about the fact that he would actually have to propose and make things official.
Some people act because they want to have something. But some people make a step only when they are afraid to lose something.
Try to shake things up a bit.
Go out with your other friends more, shuffle the plans you two have with each other more. It would throw him off for a bit, but then he will realize how comfortable he has gotten in the routine you two have established; things won’t be that way forever. Without using any manipulation techniques, you will make him realize that he could lose it all forever if he fails to act.
4. Don’t Forget The Romance
The burden of romance shouldn’t only be on him. You have to show some initiative on your part too. If you are already someone who isn’t shy about it, add the communication technique I talked about, have your own plan, and you should probably just count your days before he is presenting an engagement ring to you.
If you are one of the hesitant ones about romance though, it’s time you show some enthusiasm, lady.
Just think about it. Don’t you love it when he unexpectedly takes you to a fancy dinner or presents you with a bouquet of flowers? Or maybe it’s something like waiting for you to get free from work so that the two of you could meet up and walk home together? It’s not even about romance in the traditional terms. It’s just about the small, considerate acts of love that make you happy, and that’s probably what made you want to marry him.
Don’t you think he would want the same from you? If he tries his best to show you how loved you are, shouldn’t you do the same? Whether you two get married or not, if you are in a relationship, shouldn’t it be something you do anyway? Just like sometimes you want assurance that you are loved, the same applies to him.
If you want the relationship to operate on equal grounds, you have to make the effort to make it possible. Show him why he actually wants to be in this relationship with you and would like to stay with you in the future as well. Make the perks of your relationship clear to him.
This is something you want to do anyway. You can’t expect your man to give so much of himself to you while you show no initiative. Being passive in a relationship when he tries his best is not the best way to make him want to commit.
5. The Marriage Talk
Maybe the best way to deal with the entire thing is to simply have an honest conversation. Your man could just be dense and no matter how many ways you try, he won’t pop the question until he realizes he can pop the question. You have to think about the way you want to approach the conversation first, though.
Don’t start the conversation appearing all grim and hesitant. Instead, take a lighter approach. A positive attitude will show that you would be fine either way the conversation goes. You should look like you are ready to solve a simple problem, not throw the problem away altogether.
It doesn’t even have to be in the way you frame the question. Your body language and expression would do the job of making him feel more at ease. You have to feel optimistic yourself and that’s what’s going to be projected on to him.
Simply confess to him that you want to get married someday and if there’s a chance he feels the same way? Honesty is important and your positive vibe would let him seriously consider the question without feeling anxious.
If you start the conversation in a negative way though, you’re already deciding the answer for yourself. You have already accepted that the conversation isn’t going to end well and that’s what you will end up making him think. He would be just too thrown off to actually take the marriage conversation as something positive.
Yet, the same conversation, when done in a positive manner, can take a completely different turn. He would feel your excitement and see that it’s a good thing.
That’s why you need to do this the right way. You have to be a woman who is comfortable with herself and capable of dealing with this entire situation in a positive manner, regardless of the outcome. You know your worth and in the end, that’s all that matters.
When Will he Propose?
Well, you have wondered again and again, ‘When will he propose?’. The answer to that question is, soon. That is if you manage to try the little ways you can make him want to marry you.
At the end of it, remember if nothing comes of it, just have an honest conversation with him. If he wants to marry you, well, you can start planning for your wedding. If he doesn’t, well, life is long. You will find someone else who will love you the same way you love them. You will find someone who will want to marry you just like you do.
A man who think that you deserve the best,
Jo Fontaine
Love, happiness, enjoy life! ♥
