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1 Way To Find A Good Husband Fast

August 21, 2019 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

Today, I will talk about a new technique that will help you find a good husband faster. It simply starts with a principle that you should keep in mind. Now it’s very important to know where this principle is coming from first. So keep reading. Then you will understand why this idea is so important for you. Here we go.

It was better back in the days…

I’ve heard that one yesterday. Again. “Back in the days, things were better. Men were looking for a woman to marry.”

Here is the male version. “Back in the days, things were better. Women knew what they wanted. Now they have so much option”.

I will not judge those statements. It’s not the point today. What I want to talk about today is the meaning of those comments. Let’s say bluntly:

In the past, the system worked for you if you wanted to find a husband. Those days are over now.

Imagine. We are in the 1950s. An ambitious young man has a new job in a large corporation. He’s not married yet. He knows that he will have to find someone to marry if he wants to have a promotion. That’s how things work in the 50s. To be married was almost mandatory to get a high paying job.

Now, you already know how heavy the system was for women. If they were not married before their 30s, something was wrong.

Yes, that obligation is still present in some parts of our society (in church for instance or in politics). But, generally, it doesn’t really exist anymore.

Is that a pity? Was the system good? Maybe you will say “yes” because it worked in the past. Maybe you will say “no”: the pressure to get married was so heavy that it was easy to make a bad choice. But the point, here, is this: here you are, looking for a man without any help at all.

You can try to find a husband, dating men after men until you find the right one.

You create your own personal system.

Related article: to know more about this idea of creating your own system of research to find a man, read the article: A new way to find a boyfriend.

How to create a system that will help you find a good husband

Of course, you can’t really force a man to marry you (well at least, not legally). By system, I mean creating a group of people with the similar dreams who will have the opportunity to get together and share their thoughts, their hopes: getting married, start a family.

You, as the founder of the group, will give yourself the chance to meet men who like the idea of being married. They will not run away has they hear the “big word”; hey! that topic is the reason they have reached you.

Here are a few tips to create a system that will cheer you up in difficult moments, and where you will be able to meet and choose the type of man you are looking for.

Facebook page

Maybe you already have subscribed to a couple of Facebook pages. But do you know that it’s pretty easy to create one? To know how, just grab a copy of the book Facebook for dummies. You can have your page all settled in 10 minutes.

It’s very important to remember that your Facebook page will be local. What you want to do is to reach men and women with the same interest in your area.

Here are some steps you can follow to create your system using Facebook.

Start to write some post for your page: The subject of your posts can be your vision of marriage, what being in love means for you, how marriage has evolved through the centuries. Do not forget to ask some men to share their own point of view. You don’t want that page seen as an account only made for women.

1) Find your audience:

once you will have published 5-6 articles, start to think about finding some local subscribers. How? The Facebook boost is the perfect tool to reach your local public. Of course, this article is not a tutorial that will teach you how to boost your post on Facebook. There are plenty of great videos about that subject on YouTube. For now, just remember that you can reach, in your area, 100s of people with the same interest as yours.

Related article: You will need to be the best you can be at communicating to find the man you want and create bonds with people you meet in general. Start now to master the art of communication. Read the post conversation chemistry – review now!

2) Get them together:

There will be a moment when you will feel that people respond well to your publication. It’s time to create an event!

It doesn’t have to be something big.

You can simply organize a get together in a restaurant, for instance. Ask your subscribers what topic they want to talk about. I have seen many successful evenings built this way. To meet people face to face is your final goal. You want to see new faces (especially men), people who are interested in marriage. The more subscribers you have, the more you will have the chance to find the right one.

It’s mathematical common sense!

Related article: to learn more about why the art of organizing a simple event is a wonderful tool to find love, read the article help me get a boyfriend.

Meetup

I have already talked about this site. This tool is pretty easy to use. What I like with Meetup.com is that it’s platform has been created to help you build a following fast.

Sure, meetup is not free for the organizers. People with the same interest will be noticed when you set up your new group. They just have to press a button to follow you. Now, I just want to warn you about this: the hardest will be to make them come to the actual real meeting. It will be easier with time.

Again, I will not talk about how to organize a successful event with meetup. They are plenty of great tutorials available if you want to learn more about that subject.

Conclusion

Do not lose hope if you are still looking for a man to marry. Asking your friends and going in speed dating events are not the only methods available to find the man of your dreams. You can create your own pool and start fishing. Give this method a try.

Now you know that you can use technology to find your future husband. And no, it’s not dating online.

Go! And find your amazing man.

Love,

Jo Fontaine.

XOXO

How to date a Aquarius man

August 20, 2019 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

This article is about how to date a Aquarius . This sign is pretty special, so I want to I will give you some tips to follow if you want to seduce one of those guys. I will talk about some aspects of their personality, their habits, their likes and dislikes. Here we go!

Related articles: to know more about relationship and astrology, read the article How to keep a man in love forever according to the zodiac signs- Do not do those mistakes.

Who’s that Aquarius?

An Aquarian is well-known for his eccentricity and unpredictability. He prefers to think outside the box. See him like as a kind of philosopher, an artist of life. Don’t expect him to think conventional. An Aquarian man is curious. He likes to learn. That’s the reason why his friends are so fun, brilliant and original. Friendship is very important for an Aquarius. This aspect of his personality is the perfect opportunity, for you, to approach him.

Be his friend first

This leads to the next section. If an Aquarius is eccentric on one site, he’s pretty reserved on the personal level: he doesn’t date strangers. It means that you should not to flirt with him. You will lose your time. An Aquarius man wants to read the people he meets. He needs to know more about your preferences, your vibration, the way you see life in general. See, an Aquarius needs to trust completely a woman before he commits. That’s why your first step to seduce this zodiac sign is to become his friend. For once, to be in the friend zone is a good thing!

Think about it. As a friend, he will have all the time he needs to know you better. He will how fantastic you are, how fun and brilliant your personality is.

Related article: Learn tips and techniques to fascinate the man you want. Read the review of the book conversation chemistry now!

Get noticed

As a friend, you will have the chance to see how original an Aquarian man can be. Remember, he likes to think outside the box. An Aquarian is proud of his originality. Show that you appreciate, value that aspect of his personality; he will notice you. Another good technique is to let your own curiosity express itself. Get curious about what he does. Don’t be shy to ask question? Better: do you have some suggestions? He will raise a brow as he listens to you. An Aquarian man is kind of cerebral. You can hook him by showing your intellect power. A rich culture is a great aphrodisiac for him. The bottom line is this: Connect with him intellectually if you want to touch his heart.

Where can you go for your first date? Think about fun places of knowledge like museums or planetarium. Remember. This man likes to learn and have fun at the same time.

Just remember to pretend that you are not dating him. You are just going somewhere with a friend…

Following me?

Related article: to know more about the different technique to make a man notice you, read the article the first step to get guys notice you.

No pressure, no drama

Now that you have dated this man a few times, here is something that you should keep in mind. An Aquarian hates dramas. Playing on the emotions and act desperate will not work. In fact, he doesn’t like insecure people who can’t stop talking about feelings and love. They are not that much into emotions.

Yes, it’s true; Aquarian cares about you. But he will never be the most romantic man on this planet. He will try to remember to bring you some flowers. But it’s not in his DNA. Saint Valentine’s Day and flowers? It’s so common.

Just understand that aspect of this personality and you will be OK.

That being said, Aquarian men crave for their freedom and independence. They do not engage themselves easily. Do not try to force him. When they feel forced, they put some distance.

Here is another aspect of the Aquarian personality. Remember that, for him, friendship is very important? That’s the reason why you want to be his friend first to approach him. Well a lady has probably taken this path before you. It means that an Aquarius has often an ex as a good friend. Think about the TV show Seinfeld. Helen Benes and Jerry were a couple. Then, they became best friends. Be prepared and accept that possibility.

To summarize, an Aquarius is faithful. But realize that he will never be totally yours. He hates routine. He likes to spend time with his friends. Do not try to cage him; he will take his distance.

Related article: to know more about the art of creating freedom for your man, read the article How to get a man to marry you Give his sense of freedom.

Conclusion

Dreaming of traditional family life (suburb and have a few children)? Well maybe this man is not the one you need. Remember that he is a kind of eccentric.

Here are some signs compatible with the Aquarius: Taurus, Sagittarius, and the other Aquarius.

Some Aquarius male celebrities: Abraham Lincoln, Mozart, Adam Lambert, James Dean, Thomas Edison, Christiano Ronaldo, Christian Bale.

Now you know how to approach an Aquarius, what you should do when you date him to make his get closer to you.

Go. And find your man!

Love,

Jo Fontaine

Here’s why you can’t get a boyfriend. Are you insecure?

August 14, 2019 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

This article is about one big reason why you can’t get a boyfriend yet: insecurity. This state of mind affects deeply your behaviors, attitude. It’s express itself when you think, deep inside, that you are not enough to merit the appreciation of the others. You think that you are inadequate for the task that you wish to perform. This problem can be very tricky. It can ruin your love life without being noticed. You need to know if you are insecure because this is the first step to get rid of that trouble.

Here are a few points to know if you are insecure.

Related article: To learn how to get rid of self-doubt, read the article I can’t find a boyfriend -Destroy your doubt.

You avoid contact.

This is a typical aspect of your body language when you are insecure: you do not like to watch people in the eyes. For that reason, some people think that you are a bit snob. This is the kind of judgement insecurity creates: if you do not look in the eyes, it means that you are trying to hide something; or you think that you are better than everybody else.

Another typical habit: You always try to leave the first in a meeting or when you have a date. Personally, it took me a while to realize that insecurity was the reason why my mother always wanted to leave fast a family reunion or in an evening. A last aspect of the fear to connect with the other is that you are always the first to hang up the phone.

But this fear can lead to some severe consequence in your love life. Insecure people tend to end up their relationship first. You don’t want that your boyfriend break up with you. Well, the solution is to break up first!

Even if things are going pretty well…

Try to look at your love life. Do you tend to sabotage your relationships?

Related article: To learn how to approach men, read the article 4 tips to attract a man now.

Worries, worries, worries…

When it starts, it never stops. You just have met the guy. Hundreds of questions pop up in your mind. You are worried about everything.

“Did I say something wrong? He said this… What did he mean? How was my makeup, my hair? Too much? Not enough? Oh, my God… Hope he’s not married. I would never date a cheater. But if he’s single, did I say the right things? Why am I the only woman who doesn’t have a damn clue about flirting?”

Of course, you can find yourself in this state of mind once in a while. You are insecure if this is your general state of mind when you date someone.

Push away, and they pull back in

Insecure people do not want to get hurt. So they often push away those who want to get closer to them. An insecure woman will be a real puzzle for a man. Some guys will try to clear up the mystery; most of them will fail. The others will simply walk away. This is when an insecure lady will realize her mistake. She will try to pull back her man in her life. Sometime, it will work. Sometime, it won’t.

Insecurity must be everywhere…

Usually, insecure people do not want to be the only person suffering in the room. So usually, they will try to share their insecurity and mess up the other’s people mind.

A lady told me recently that a woman, worried to die alone, said to her:

“What? You are still looking for a husband? But aren’t you worried about your age? Soon you will be too old to have children.”

This is typical. Insecurity must be everywhere, according to the worried people.

Related article: To learn how to stop being influenced by negative people and how deal with the fear of being alone, read the article help me get a boyfriend. First, get rid of that person.

Can’t take a compliment, Can’t see what’s good

Do you put yourself down often? Do you have problem to accept a compliment? Insecure people just can’t take a good word. How many times have you said something like that?

“You say I’m beautiful only because you are a sweet person…”

Yesterday, I was watching a rap battle. A professional rapper was standing in front of a stand up comedian with a low self-esteem. They were supposed to roast each other. The comedian putted himself down so badly that the rapper didn’t know what to say. The job was already done.

Man… It was sad…

This is not the answer I want to hear…

Insecurity is like being deaf. You never hear the answer that is given. Even if it’s the answer you hear is once you are waiting for… Insecure people cannot accept an answer. That’s why they are asking the same question over and over.

Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me?

Are you thinking about somebody, right now?

Hit back

Until now, we have talked about one type of insecure personality. That person thinks that she has nothing interesting to offer to anyone. This trouble of the personality can be called inferiority complex. But some men and women will try to over compensate that lack of energy.

Oh, for sure, they get hurt easily like all the insecure people. But they will seek for revenge. And lord! it will happen fast. They will hit hard. Too hard. They get a little slap on the hand, and they will get their bazooka.

How do you react when you feel hurt?

Control freaks

A lot of insecure people are control freaks. Since they are scared to death that something happens, they will try to control their date, their spouse, and all the activities they make. They want to control what the other say, how they think. Do you try to control everything pretending that you want that everything is perfect?

Striving for superiority

Some people go too far to over compensate their insecurity. They want to hide their fear so bad that they will oppress everybody around them. If they can make someone unhappy, they are happy.

Here is their logic: “I make people sweat, therefore I exist.”

This type of insecure person is a “disagree machine”. No wonder that this they have problems to have a healthy relationship.

Conclusion

This article is not about how to get rid of insecurity: the hardest is to identify the problem.

Very often, an insecure person will use those lines: “this is reality”. “That’s how it goes today”. Some people will play the tough card and will want to show how strong they are. But they can be broken in a snap of fingers.

Once you have accepted that you are insecure, you will be able to create a plan to have an easier life.

Now you know that being scared of everything or bragging about how tough will get you nowhere.

Take care of yourself. And find that amazing man.

Love,

Jo Fontaine

The first step to get guys notice you.

August 13, 2019 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

In this article, you will understand that there’s logic in the art to get guys notices you.

To get noticed, you need to be charming. To be charming is you will have to get some habits. All those habits can be come down to this concept: social skill. And the only way you will get confident with your social skills is to get the habit to charm the men and women you meet in your everyday life.

Here what happens: when people are them comfortable with you, you get comfortable with them. Your body language changes tremendously: you know that you are irresistible.

Here are a few tips you can use to reach that goal. Use those techniques with men and women until they become second nature.

Related article: know all the best tips to have a great conversation with men and built sexual tension between you and the man you want. Read the post conversation chemistry – review now!

Tip #1 use their name

All the irresistible women I known have that habit: when they talk someone, they always say his or her name. It doesn’t matter if you think that people are egocentric; it’s just the way it is: the sweetest word ever the first name. Get the habit to put naturally the other’s name in the conversation. People all around you will notice that, and they will want to be treated the same way.

This is the most basic way to attract men. Make them want to be treated the same way you treat the others.

Tip #2 ask the right question

There are a lot of articles out there that talk about those “100 questions to ask the men you date”. I have always been a bit embarrassed by those kinds of articles. Maybe it’s because I’m a man. Many of those questions would make me wonder if I’m getting a job interview without having applied to anything. 10 questions like that and I would run away!

But it doesn’t mean that you should not ask questions. In fact, it’s an excellent technique. But you should ask the right questions first: those that could lead to some emotional bonds. What kind of questions will help you to reach that goal? Emotions questions.

Asking emotions question is an excellent way to make someone feel great inside. In a precedent article, I have told you that you don’t have to worry that much about the subject you will choose when you decide to approach a man. But when it’s done, use an emotion question to put some depth in the conversation.

For instance, you learn that he likes to play guitar. You can ask:

“How do you feel when you play guitar?”

“Why have you chosen guitar? Is your idol a guitarist?”

Realize how powerful this type questions is. They will lead to hundreds of doors ready to be opened to continue the conversation.

And remember. Start right now to use that technique. Use it with men and women until that it gets in your DNA. You will not have time to think about those tips when you will be face to face with that cute guy you have always dreamed about!

Related article: to know more about the art of asking questions and the art of listening, read the article Find and seduce a man with your irresistible charisma.

Tip #3. Find something to share about it.

The other benefit you will get when you to ask emotion questions is that you can easy rely on the answer to go further in the conversation. For instance, it doesn’t matter if you don’t know how to play guitar. But if he says:

“When I play I forget all my troubles”.

You can certainly rely on that answer. Maybe you read a good book or you start painting to forget your own troubles. You have something to add to the conversation!

Another variation is to tell a story. Just think about Hollywood, about the ads on YouTube or when you watch the Super Bowl. There is a reason why they attract the attention. Stories are very hypnotic. You can use that technique when you talk to someone. You will become more charming. Men (just as women) love stories. Have fun telling a story about your experiences. You can even talk about a moment when you were embarrassed. It will show how lighthearted and positive you are.

Don’t worry if you don’t know how to tell stories. You will get better with time. That’s why I urge you to practice with the men and women you meet.

If you want to get better faster, you can always practice at home. Get in front of a mirror and practice telling your story. It’s not silly. That’s what the best speakers in the world do. The good stand up comics practice before they get on the stage. Why wouldn’t you?

Tip #3. Positive feedback and praise

A very wise man I know told me once that you can shape the personality of a person you love with positive feedback and praises coming from the heart. Once again, I was totally blown away by that his powerful confidence. What an old man! Sure, your goal is not necessarily to empower a person that you don’t know that well yet. But a good word always creates a boost in someone’s self-esteem. Charming woman is chased because she makes people feel better. Get that reputation and you will be irresistible.

Related article: to read more about how to build a great personal vibration, read the article 4 tips to attract a man now.

What to know more about the art of giving compliment? Read the article the #1 technique to get your man to commit to you.

Tip #4. It’s cool to be bold, sometimes…

I have said that clothes do not matter that much to attach a man. As long as you take care of your body and you respect yourself, a man who’s already like you will not change his mind whatever you wear. But it doesn’t hurt to use the appearance to distinguish yourself a bit. Of course, your new style will have to fit with your personality somehow. A few weeks ago I said to a cute and shy lady: “You know what? I think that some green eyeshadow would look great on you”.

“I can’t wear that color… It’s not me at all… I… I can’t…”

Yes, I know. Now, what is very interesting is that, sometimes, the lady wears very colorful clothes. But most of the time, she wears black and gray pans and sweaters. Let’s say that, one day, she decides to be more “extravagant”. All she has to do is to stick with the colorful style she already has.

Following?

People, in general, are attracted by men and women who distinguish themselves. Decide to be bold in your own way and you will look confident, charismatic and charming.

Find your bold style and try it. You will be surprised.

Conclusion

Today, the conclusion will sound like a last tip: don’t try too hard. Practice slowing, get some confidence. Like a great French Canadian boxer once said, get some little pride here and there. Don’t expect too much success right away. Have fun developing that new side of your personality. This is something that you will keep all your life.

Continue to practice your techniques with men and women. Once day, people around you will star to look at you differently.

Especially men.

Now you know what to do to get guys notice you.

Go! And find your amazing man.

Love,

Jo Fontaine

XOXO

4 tips to attract a man now

August 10, 2019 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

In this article, I will share with you 4 tips to attract a man fast. Here we go!

Tip #1: forget about the competition

There are two types of competition that can sabotage your chance to meet a man. The first one is the way you consider the other women. Every day, you scroll down the news feed on Twitter, Facebook. You wonder: “how can I compete with those models”? Then you think: “well, those ladies workout every day for hours and hours. They have the money to pay nutritionists, yoga instructors and make-up specialists. Their job is stay in shape and look pretty”.

But you have a regular 9 to 5 job. It’s impossible. So you think it’s impossible to can’t compete with those women.

Well, you don’t have to…

Men love all type of women. Realize that there is more than one guy who likes exactly your type of body. This is the reason why you see some gorgeous men in couple with women who are not considered “hot” by the social standard. In a precedent article, I have talked about the fact that only one characteristic of your body is enough to make a man crazy about you. The magic starts if you have what he likes. You don’t have to look like Megan fox to attract a man.

The other type completion is created by the belief that you are not enough. You think that you need to be just like your neighbor who has found a boyfriend recently. This attitude will hurt you: it affects your body language. You cannot attract a man with a type of energy that says: “don’t look at me. I don’t like my body”.

Forget about that competition. Forget about those pinups on social media. You know some women who have a lot of success with men? Who cares! You have something that they don’t have.

You are you.

You are unique.

Tip #2: confidence works better than a simple smile.

This second tips is the logical point following the first one. Confidence is the master key to attract men. Some women don’t have it. But they fake it. Think about Marilyn Monroe, for instant.

No matter how you look, you will have problem to get noticed if you are hiding yourself. Does it mean that you have to be out going with men? Not necessarily.

The Collins dictionary defines the word “confidence” as a state of mind when a person is sure about his or her own abilities, qualities or ideas. It means that to be confident, you need to know your value. You have to know exactly what you have to offer to a man you like.

So here is a very important step : take a piece a paper. Now answer those questions: what is special about you? Think about all the good things your friends have told you about your personality. Why do they like you so much? It you have problems to find some positive aspect of your personality ask a friend. You will get some answers pretty fast, believe me.

The idea, here, is pretty simple. Ask yourself: “what do I have to offer to that cute guy?”

If your answer is “I don’t know”, I will say: “look harder”

Nobody is insignificant unless they think they are…

Tip #3: let that positive vibe irradiate all around you.

Now, knowing that you have something to offer is one thing. Showing it is something else. How do you know that you are a passionate woman, a lady who’s fun to be around? It’s a bit complicated to explain to a guy that you are the right woman for him. The best solution is to use your positive vibration to make him feel that you are a fascinating woman.

“Ugh… Positive vibration, you say. Not again that expression. What does it mean, anyway?”

A vibration is simply how you feel inside. Think about it. When you feel great in your mind and in your body, you act in a certain relaxed way. Have you noticed that, when you are in a joyful mood, people react in a certain way? They see you as a breath of fresh air, so to speak. Men are very sensible to that kind of vibration. Novel and movie have talked about that fact. Men love to feel that there’s something special in a woman.

Remember. A relaxed and feminine attitude is sexy for a man.

Now the best way to have that positive vibe is to start to practice a passion. If you don’t have one, right now, find it. You can’t be a fascinating woman if you have no passion at all. You will need that energy to multiply inside so that you will be able to enchant the man you want.

Have a pleasant life. It’s the easiest way to attract a man.

Related article: Learn how to build a positive vibe. Read the post why I can’t find a boyfriend. Change your map to love.

Tip #4 Appearance counts. But not that much

Now you know why appearance is not the major key to attract a man. By “appearance”, I’m talking about the cost of your clothes, how expensive is the makeup you put on your face. Sure, you want to make sure that everybody understands that you take care of your body. You want to be seen as a classy woman, a lady of value. That’s OK. This is just a statement you are making. Once it’s done, try to remember that you are not in competition with the other women around. I know that this advice is very difficult to follow for some of you, ladies. I know that many women use their appearance not only to attract men but to send messages to the “competition”.

But the truth is this. To attract the right guys, you don’t have to count that much on the clothes you wear. A man who likes you will find you attractive anyway.

Related article: Know why your look doesn’t matter that much. Read the article looking for a new boyfriend. Does your look really matter?

Tip #4 Learn how to approach men.

There was a time when you just have to sit there and wait until a man comes to you. Well, it seems that this era is gone. Today, you will have to be proactive to get noticed. No, I don’t mean that you will have to flirt with men. You don’t have to if you are shy. But you will have to learn how to approach a man. In the post How to approach a man safely, I say that to “Approach” means to “talk to someone for the first time”. The subject of this first contact is not important.

Related article: master the art of conversation and build sexual tension in a man now!. Read the post conversation chemistry – review.

Conclusion

To attract a man, you will have no choice but to observe what going on inside. How to you feel about yourself? Do you think that you deserve to be approached by men? Do you have something great to offer? Don’t worry if your answer is “no” to any of those questions. It simply means that you will have to discover a part of yourself that you have not seen yet. Like I have said, Nobody is insignificant unless they think they are…

In other words, there is a door that is just in front of you, ready to be opened. You have the opportunity to change your life, to make it more pleasant.

Now you know that a pleasant life attracts the people you want.

Go and find your amazing man.

Love,

Jo Fontaine

How To Approach Any Man Safely

August 8, 2019 By Jo Fontaine Leave a Comment

Today, I’m going to talk to you about the different techniques that you can use to approach a man. OK, you don’t know him very well. Maybe you don’t even know his name; It doesn’t matter. There’s a way to break the ice safely. No need to lose your dignity! Here we go.

What “approaching” means to you?

“The times they are a-changin’” – Bob Dylan.

It’s true. Times have changed. A few years ago, only men seemed to be confused and puzzled about the art of approaching. Today, everybody is concerned about the subject. Now think about this: what does “approaching” means to you? Realize that approaching is not necessarily flirting. Approaching is simply starting a conversation for the first time with someone. Try to remember that point and a lot of the fear to approach will go away.

Consider this: you don’t need to use complicated techniques to talk to a man for the first time. The reason is that men are not used to be approached. They don’t feel the need to build a protection wall to defend themselves (in fact, most men are surprised and happy to be approached).

The point is this: to approach a man you only have to talk to him. About anything. Don’t try of over think the process. Don’t worry; things will go pretty straight forward. We, men, are not trained to act like we are not interested (even if we are)…

You know what I mean?

Related article: read the article 2 Safe Ways To Flirt With Men And Turn Them On if you want to flirt with him right away!

What “being noticed” means to you?

The desire to be noticed can ruin all your chances to meet a man. You are so afraid to fail that you never make the first step. Please, remember this important point: don’t worry too much about being noticed. Your cute man will notice you when you will talk to him. It’s that simple.

Talk to someone = Being noticed

But what are you going to talk about?

Ask for help

This is the classic. You will never look needy when you ask for some help. Well, let me rephrase that… You will never look like a needy woman. All you do is to pretend that you need some help for a task. Is there something heavy that you need to put on your office table? Here’s your opportunity to approach him!

Another idea: maybe you have heard that he’s an Eagle fan. You tell him that you want to learn more about the team this season. Which player should you follow closely?

Another variation of the technique is to offer some help. I know a lady who has a crush for a cute man in her office. He plays in a rock band. It happens that the lady knows a good music manager. Even for a shy woman, the approach is easy.

“Hey! I’ve heard that you in a rock band. Do you have a manager right now? Well I know one. He’s well-known in the industry.”

That approach is a winner! I don’t know how the love story is doing right now. I will get some news in couple of weeks, for sure… :0)

Find a way to ask for some help. Or offer some help. Either way, the contact is made…

Related article: read the post How To Know If A Man Loves Me? to read easily the signs that he’s about to fall in love with you.

Make a statement

Another technique is simply to make a statement. It can be a simple comment about the weather. Again, women do not approach men a lot. So, he will not say: “is that the best pick up line you have”? In fact, he will not even realize that you are approaching him! Men are dumb (but we are proud about it).

Another good tip is to give a sincere compliment. Compliment him about the way he talks or his clothes. You are a bit shy? Wel,l instead of saying: “I like your sweater. You look great!” ask him: “Hi, where did you buy that sweater? It looks great!”

See the difference?

Anyway, the contact is made, and now, he has noticed you.

Asking… without asking… Is he single?

You are probably a master of that technique- but I will talk about it anyway. You can easily know if a man is single or not.

Remember that lady who’s in love with a musician colleague? She said to him:

“Hope your girlfriend is not too jealous about all those groupies turning around you”.

“We are not that successful yet”, the cute guy answered.

That answer was not the answer she wanted to hear.

“Do you mean that your girlfriend has not said a word yet? No comments? It’s hard to believe…”

“Well… I don’t have a girlfriend”

AHA!

Start right away to use cute names

In a precedent article, I have talked about some safe cute names you can use when you talk to a man that you don’t know very well.

In fact, you can use some of those names as you approach him for the first time! Here’s how.

The word “darling” is perfect when he gives you a hand. Sure, you can say: “Oh… You are so sweet”. But maybe you don’t feel comfortable with that technique. Here’s what you can do.

Let’s say that he’s bringing you the report you were waiting for. As you are opening the file, say with an easy tone of voice: “thank you, darling”

Nothing serious. Keep doing your task. You do not ignore him. You appreciate what he has done. But you are busy.

Following me?

A safe, cute name is an important tool to approach a man. Use that technique, if you can, to create some sparks before you decide to make your first approach.

Related article: read the article 3 magical tips to make a man fall in love with you if you want to learn more about the art of using pet names.

The not-so-direct-approach. the next step.

You feel confident? Then make the next step right away! Let’s say that in the discussion he looks at you. He’s speechless (or puzzled). You already know that he’s single. Here what you can do (he will think about you for the 24 next hours).

Act like you are surprised of his reaction then say: “What? If you want my phone number, it’s OK. But do not give my phone number to anybody else”. (You can even punch lightly his shoulder).

Then give him your phone number.

Important article: learn the art of conversation and the art of building sexual tension. Read the post conversation chemistry-review now !

You gotta go…

A Good advice. Now, with all the tool that you have learn to have a great discussion, things are going well.

Very well…

Well the next step is this: leave the discussion.

Yes, you heard me. Leave the discussion.

This technique may seem counter-intuitive, but here’s the idea. Let the magic work. Of course, you will let him know that you have no choice. You are busy. But let him know that you really liked that discussion. And ask him: “Will I see you again?” or “We will talk again, right?”

Now you know how to approach a man that you don’t know yet.

Go! And find your amazing man.

Love,

Jo Fontaine

XOXO.