“Save a boyfriend for a rainy day – and another, in case it doesn’t rain” – Mae West
In this article, I will talk about the most important tool you need to find a good husband or a boyfriend. This set of techniques can help you to make a tremendous change in your love life. You can use them to become irresistible to his eyes.
I’m talking here about the art of selling yourself.
You want to learn this art because it will help you to have a successulf love life. In this article you will know all the basic techniques you need to make him go gaga for you. You can use those ideas while you are on a date or when you write your profile on dating site. Be ready to wow the man you want.
Related article: read the article 1 thing that will make men crazy about you to learn more way to impress that cute man you want.
Show how fantastic you are.
There something that is special about you. You must realize it. Really.
When you realize how special you are, you open a door open for the men you meet. You keep it wide open. In fact, what you do is to take them by the hand and show them how different you are of all the other women they have met before. Following me?
“So you are a little weird? Work it! A little different? Own it! Better be a nerd than one of the herd!”- Mandy Hale
First, make a list of things that make you unique.Take a pen and a paper; write something specific. For instance, there’s a lot of people who could write this:
” I can spend all the weekend reading a book”.
There’s a good chance that your future husband will not care about that aspect of your personality. But if you say that you like to read thrillers or philosophy, now you are different!
Maybe you like to watch horror movie just before you go to bed.
You are writing your profile on a dating site? How about creating little funny squabbles? (note: I say funny) Things like:
The point is this: be different. Nobody is like you.
You have great stories to tell about you. I have never seen a woman who doesn’t. Stories are a great way to sell yourself, to shine, without looking to needy. Sharing a story is a great way to send a message. Here’s an example: usually it is advised to not talk about marriage up front when you meet a man. But it doesn’t mean that you should not tell a great story about a ring that you wear. This could be a great way to make him want to learn more about you.
“My grandmother gave it to me when I was 18. This is her wedding ring.”
Here’s another example.
“I bought it in a little jewelry store downtown last year. I thought that I would look great with it. I love simple jewels.”
Here you are saying something very important: “I’m not looking for a man who will submit to all my whims. I can buy my own stuffs. You don’t have to be worried about that”.
Now, what can you say about that story?
“My friends bought that ring last year as a gift. I mean, it’s a cheap ring, but they are so sweet!”
What you are saying here is that you have a great social life. You are a warm lady that people love. You care about your friends. Friendship is important for you. You are not desperately looking for affection. The man that you meet will get the picture, believe me…
Now, you don’t have a ring? No problem. Maybe you have a story about a necklace, a pair of earrings that you own.
But the best is to tell a story about a ring. Without even realize it, the man you are dating will start to think about marriage, engagement, the big, fat wedding.
You are implanting those images in his mind at the first date! You’re pretty good.
Does it mean that you will have to make up a story? Not necessarily. The best is to tell something that really happened to you.
Look for an object that you usually wear. Is there a story about that object that you could share? A story that would describe you well? Take your time. Think about it.
If you just can’t find a story, here is another idea.
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Think about your favorite hobby.
What do you enjoy doing the most?
Here, be specific about what you like. Write some details. You will have the chance to share them when you will meet a man.
Just let your personality shine! Do you have a unique talent? Try to write a short list of punchy lines that will illustrate your passion. You will use those lines will to intrigue him. He will want to know more about you (a passionate woman is very exciting for a man). Here are some punchy lines I have found on the web. They are fun and I just love them.
- Like dancing in the rain
- I think that I’m Beyoncé when I sing in my bathroom (one of my friend said that one).
- Iowa farm girl masquerading as East Coast intellectual
- Once in his life, a man is entitled to fall madly in love with a gorgeous redhead -Lucille Ball.
- All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn’t hurt-Charles M. Schulz
Again, take your pen and your paper. Star to write some lines that will describe your personality, your passion.
The most important client you will ever have.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others approval. Because one accept oneself, the whole world accept him or her” – Lao Tzu
I’m talking about you.
Maybe you are the most skeptic of all your clients.
In other words, you will have to sell hard who you are… to yourself.
You will have to sell yourself:
- That you are a bright, lovable woman.
- That you deserve the best boyfriend, the best husband: the man who will fit to your personality, your strengths and your weaknesses.
- That the world is not divided in two: Assholes and the men who are already taken.
When will you know that you have been sold to those fantastic ideas? When you will feel great inside. Then, suddenly, you will start to see interesting single men everywhere.
Do not talk too much! Really?
Now all good sale people will tell you this.
“Do not talk too much”.
But here, in the dating world, it is important that the man you meet does not feel that he is in a job interview.
Or worst, that he’s been arrest by the police.
What kind of question should you ask? Use open questions. What have you noticed about him? You surely can find something you like in that man (if you can’t, that could be a problem). Show your interest. Does he have a great voice? Ask if he takes singing lessons (now you have a door opened to talk a bit about how you like to sing in your bathroom).
Now, you will have to practice a bit those techniques to make them look natural. just remember to have fun in the process and every thing will be alright..
“Caring -about people and things, about life- is an act of maturity.”- Tracy McMillan