I want to share with you a new way to find your perfect boyfriend. I have to say that I’m a bit jealous. I should have thought about it first. But no; my colleague Nathalie did.
Here is how the story starts: I’m talking with Nathalie about love and relationship. She says that men are hunters. Hum…
“Yeah, I have heard that one so many times”, I say. “Not, all men are hunters, Nat… Some are gatherers. They take what they feel is good for them. When they find it…”
Oh-oh… Now I have her attention. So here I continue…
“And men are not necessarily hunters or gatherers. For instance, I’m a trapper”
“W-what do you mean, Jo”, ask Nathalie?
Well, when I was a teenager, I have noticed that I liked to flirt without flirting, so to speak. I’m not that great at seduction. But I know that people have tendencies to like me very fast because I’m a cool guy. So basically what I like to do, unconsciously, is just to have fun with my friends when the woman is around. I just do my thing. If she sees me twice or 3 times, she’s hocked.
That’s how I “seduced” my girlfriend.
“I know what you mean, she says. I’ve used a kind of trap too recently. But it’s different…”
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Use your meetup as a trap to find your man.
Nathalie has a great personality. But a few months ago, she has decided to use a different method to find her man. She has decided to use the site Meetup.com to create her trap. Meetup has a great platform. It lets you organize and attend as much meeting as you want. It doesn’t matter what is your interest. You can be sure that there is a group of person who have the same passion, the same hobby.
Now it seems that people don’t realize how much this platform change the way the members think and behave. After you will have assisted to a few meetups, you will notice that most of the leaders have a co-operative mind set. What does that mean for you? Well it means that most groups are open to new suggestions. The organizers are always happy if you bring some fresh ideas that will help enrich their group. That great: you will build your trap inside those groups.
Knowledge is power
Since your goal is to find a boyfriend or a husband, your first step is simply to find groups dedicated to help singles to find love.
Once you have found one or two groups, go to their meeting. Know more about the members of that group. Talk to them. Here your copy of the Ebook conversation chemistry You want to learn how they feel about being lonely. Sure, you already know it sucks. But not everybody will live that experience the same way. Everybody suffers in their own and unique ways.
For instance, a divorced man is sick and tired of loneliness. But, at the same time he’s afraid to be stuck in another difficult relationship.
Here is a lady in her mid 30s. She thinks that she’s a loser because she not married and has no children.
You don’t really have to ask question. All you have to do is be friendly (especially with men but not only). All this information will come to you pretty fast. And here comes the second part of your plan.
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Meet the organizers.
The next step is to be known by the organizers. Sure, they are not cool and friendly people. But it seems that in the single event business, most of them are. After 2-3 meetups, you will know them. They will probably call you by your name. I have said that the meetup platform creates a co-organizing spirit. What do I mean by that? I mean that soon or later, an organizer will come at you and propose you to organize something in their group.
You’re in, girl!
But what idea will you propose?
It’s up to you, lady.
So now you understand that you don’t really have to start a meeting from scratch. All you have to do is to join a well establish group, assist to the meeting, and gradually get involved in the organization.
So what idea will you propose? Think about your needs. Remember. The goal of this plan is to create more opportunity for you to meet men who have the same desire you have.
Nathalie knows clearly what her problem is. She has trouble to find men who want to start a family. She wants to create a subgroup around that topic.
So the next time she meets the organizer of the group, she proposes to create a subgroup that will talk about this issue and give some support and encouragement to its members.
The organizer nods. He likes the idea so much that he proposes Nathalie to put an ad in his account to make sure that everybody in the group will see the announcement of the new subgroup.
Wow. The reaction is amazing.
And the first subscriber is a man…
Have Nathalie found a boyfriend yet, you ask? Well, not. But I know that she dates more often than she used to. The most important point is this: she dates men who are already compatible with her. Those guys too want to have a family; that’s why they have subscribed to the subgroup Nathalie has created.
My sister says that, sometimes, you have to act like a huntress even if you are not a real one.
How about trying to be a trapper?
Now you know how to be one.
Do you have any question? Any comments? There’s a little white box below just for you. Share your ideas!
Now, go! And find your amazing man.