You know, people say a lot of things about attraction. Some say that you have to be born with it. Are you one of them? Well you are right! Bacause we are all born with it!
Realize that you already possess all the tools that you need to attract your perfect boyfriend. It’s not that obvious for you? Well maybe it’s because some of those problems slowing you down in your research:
- You don’t believe that you have those tools
- You don’t know how to use them
- Some thoughts are slowing you down
- You simply don’t think it will be possible to fulfill your dream.
Here are 7 ideas to help you destroy these problems. They will help you find your perfect man. How fast things will change? It depends on you. Now, this is good news: it means that you are responsible for your life. Responsible is not a judgment saying:
“If things go wrong, it’s your fault”.
It simply means that you will always have a chance to change things around if you believe it. Nice, no?
Visualize what you want.
“Dare to visualize a world in which your most treasured dreams have become true”- Ralph Marston
This is a great technique that you can use right away to attract your perfect boyfriend. Let me explain how easy it can be done.
Think about it. When you focus most of the time about the abundance you have, more will come to you. Maybe you don’t have a husband yet. Maybe you are still looking for a boyfriend. But you already have something. What is it? The desire to love. I’m talking about all that wonderful love that you are ready to give to your man.
How will you fulfill your boyfriend? Take a journal and write 1 to 5 wonderful things that you have inside of you. Do you have the reputation to be sweet person? Are you a funny person to be around? Be happy about what you have. Do not be shy. Nobody will read your journal, anyway…
Now, close your eyes. Take 2-3 minutes to be grateful for those wonderful things that you have. Remember that this is the gift you are offering to your man.
All your sweetness, all your kindness.
Be grateful with fervor.
Now, notice how you feel after this exercise. As you practice this exercise, you will feel better and better. You will feel your magnetic power.
If you start to feel it, men will too very soon!
How do you spend your time?
I guess you have noticed it reading that article. As the law of attraction is concerned, future and present tend to be the same. The way you think today will lead to your future. Now and tomorrow are linked.
So write down what you will do with your perfect boyfriend. Where will you go with your kids (if you want to have children)? Create some scenarios. They will not necessarily happen. But your visualization will create a map that will guide the different elements has they get together to realize your dream.
By the way, ask yourself:
“Can I find a common theme in all my scenarios?”
You will find here your most secret desire.
“Time is on my side” -The Rolling Stones.
Time out for your negative thoughts
“Be a force of love as often as you can and turn away negative thoughts whenever you feel them surface”- Wayne Dyer
Ok, you want to find a perfect boyfriend. But deep inside do you believe that:
- All good men are already taken?
- Men don’t want to approach women anymore?
- I’m not interesting.
- Men are afraid of successful women.
- Men are all liars.
If you have said yes to any of these questions, you may need to look at your beliefs closely; some of them are stopping you. You can’t become a man magnet with those thoughts.
One good technique is to question those beliefs. For instance, you can see everywhere men telling the truth. Those men can be your brother, your dad, your friend, a neighbor, a TV star. Just try that idea with sincerity and, believe me, you will find plenty of examples.
Now the big deal is that, on the other side, if you want to believe that all men are liars, you will find all the examples you need to prove that point. And you will believe it even more. Wow! What does it mean? It means that you create your reality.
Remember what Les Brown said:
“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears”
Here is another good idea. Surround yourself with positive people. I’m not talking necessarily about people who already have found a man. Go and find positive women who are still looking. How to find them? Well you can go to meet up.com and find some blind dates evenings. Of course, you will talk mostly to men. But soon or later, you will start to talk to other women. Most of them will be more or less depressed. But you will find at least one woman who is able to stay positive no matter what happens. Things are not easy for her. But she keeps smiling. She talks to everybody. If a man is rude, she tells him to go away and laugh at him.
My sister is that kind of woman, I remember. When she was looking for a man, she used to say:
“Don’t take it too personal… If you do, it will get burned”.
That’s the kind of positive woman you need to be with. They will help you focus on your goal. Surround yourself with those ladies and you will keep in mind what you want and not what you don’t want.
Keeping those women close to you is one of the best things you can do.
Let the happiness reminders talk you were ever you are.
“Symbols are the imaginative signposts of life” -Margot Asquith
You can create happiness reminders all around you. They will help you keep a positive attitude has you continue to look for your perfect boyfriend.
Reminders are just like affirmation: Trust in those reminders. Give 100% of yourself and they will work
Doubt a bit and they will lose their power.
Are you following me?
Here are some ideas…
Create a vision board. This board can be just a big piece of cardboard. Put images of everything you desire. You can pin a happy couple walking in a park, or a mom playing with her kids in the living room. Put your vision board where you can see it often. Put 100% of yourself in those images. Watch them. Let go your imagination.
Create a video. With that video will be able to see your images everywhere you go. If you don’t already have software to edit your little video, here are 2 editors I really like. They are easy to understand and hey! They are free!
Change your desktop wallpaper: this is a technique I always use. Try to find a wallpaper that will describe best what you are looking for. You can even write a motivation quote, create an image using Canvas.com and use it as a wallpaper (that is what I just did for my laptop).
Use symbols: use things that represent what you are looking for: Things that can represent your couple, your family, your marriage. It could be blankets, pens, notebooks. Use your imagination. Here, the sky is the limit.
Do you want more ideas to help you get that positive vibe that will make you irresistible? Read the article Will I ever get a boyfriend? 3 techniques to stay positive. In a coming article, we will start to talk about some techniques that you can use on the field to attract men. But keep taking care of your mind as you continue to look for your man.
Do you have any comments, any question? You can write them in the little box below. I will be more than happy to talk to you.
Have fun, feel great
Now go, and find your amazing man!