In this article, I will talk about 5 tips that will help you find a boyfriend. All those techniques have been test proofed with time and described by many experts.
According to an ethological study (Eibl-Eibesfeldt, 1975), body language in flirting and courtship indicate that there may be a universal nonverbal system (if you want to know more about this, I will give you, below, the link of an article from The National Library of Medicine website).
It means that some facial express, gesture, posture can affect men, no matter his origin, ethnic or social background.
This is what makes nonverbal communication so powerful. You cannot neglect such a weapon.
Use it or it will be turned against you.
Luckily, those tools are fun to play with. They can create the positive effect of your love life, if well-used.
But first let’s talk about an old principle in dating that is present today. Here we go!
Cute and gracious
See flirting like a dance. Recent research suggests that our body are sensitive to the variation of the movements with a partner. Nothing new here!
But the qualities men are looking for in a partner are almost the same that they are craving for in a live partner.
It’s not surprising that two main qualities can literally drive a man crazy about you. I will resume those characteristics by two words: cute and gracious.
Some tendencies are still present in our psyche. An old instinct needs time to modify itself; our modern society is too recent to create new courtship instincts. In other words,
- Women are still looking for knights.
- Men are still looking for gracious women. Most of them want to be knights in some ways.
I have said in a previous article that one of the fastest way to make a man yours is to play the “cute card”. This is the best way to hit the two targets with one bullet (to learn more about the art of being cute, read the article How to find the perfect mate. Be irresistible).
But remember. Being cute is not being weak.
Looking for a knight is not playing the helpless princess.
Here are some gracious and cute universal gestures that will help you seduce the man you want.
#1.Your Smile and your voice.
Yes, I know you have heard that one. But sometime sometimes well-known advice are popular because they are just common sense.
A smile and a warm voice can do miracle separated. Together, they are irresistible.
You want to learn how to change the intonation of voice. But don’t make it sound too much like singing. Your goal is to find your cute and sexy voice.
Here are 2 types of voices to illustrate my point. Maybe they can inspire you to find your own voice. Take your time to study them.
What does coy means?
It means artfully shy or hesitant.
You pretend to be shy but in a funny, coquettish way.
Coy is a technique that creates in a man the desire to protect. If doesn’t matter if you need or don’t need that protection: You just want to create that feeling in your man.
Tina Fey is just a great teacher the art of being cute. You will learn a lot, watching her.
She has never pretended to be a top model or a sex symbol. Still, she drives men crazy.
She knows how to be coy at the right moment. That’s what makes her irresistible.
Look at Tina. You always feel that she’s in a kind of flirting mood with the audience. But in a teasing, lighthearted manner.
In this video, Tina shows you how it can be done.
#3 The touch
This could be your most powerful weapon to seduce your soon-to-be-boyfriend: men just love to be lightly touched by surprised. When you will have the chance, in a conversation, touch his forearm. Here’s another idea: put the palm of your hand on the hedge of his shoulder.
A great moment to use that technique is when you are laughing or when you want to look like a shy person ( “play cute” remember?).
Play it well and look how he reacts….
Here a personal example of how that technique can be effective.
A few years ago, I was looking for some garlic powder in a grocery store. Just couldn’t find it. So I asked a client if she had any idea where I could find that common seasoning. She smiled and said:
“You’re right in front of it!”
I was a bit ashamed of myself. So, just to make things worse, I said:
“Uh… Do they make some garlic in liquid?”
The woman was surprised: “I didn’t know they made some garlic in liquid, she replied.
I sighed: “They don’t. I just said something stupid.”
The woman laughed and put her hand on my shoulder. I still remember my reaction.
That woman was really, really not my type. But I felt a kind of energy flowing through my veins. Slightly, but it was there.
Lady, they are a lot of those techniques that you can use to make a man yours. But the light, safe touch is of your best weapon to seduce a man without being too obvious.
#4 Play the game without being weak.
In another article, I said that most men still feel the need to protect the women they love. That desire will take hundreds of years to disappear totally. There are many ways you can use to feed that need without being a weak woman.
Here’s an example of how you can play that game without saying a word (the woman of my life used that technique at the beginning of our relationship): the next time you will cross a boulevard with your man, reach his arm to get closer. This is simple movement creates in a man the desire to protect.
#5 Show your naughty side
Cute women are men magnets. But do not be afraid to show that you like to have fun, sometimes: Men love vibrant women.
Teasing him is, sometimes, one of the best ways to show that you are cute and strong. Be sweet and have fun with him. Give his shoulder a nudge. If you can, make a few pranks (of course, they will have to be funny for both of you). To know more about the art of teasing, read the article How to make him fall in love with me. The art of teasing).
In conclusion, your goal is to make him say:
“Oh, that woman is so cute. And she’s kind crazy too!”
Now, go and find your amazing man!
Make him crazy about you.
P.S. Click on the link to read the article form the NIH website.
Love, happiness, enjoy life! ♥