It works, it’s scary
“Please to meet you. Hope you guess my name” Sympathy for the devil – The Rolling Stone.
You tell me if I’m wrong. You have heard a lot of advice about online dating. Women who do this feel secure online.
YOUR FRIEND: “Online dating? Are you crazy girl? Those sites are crawling with maniacs. Anyway, what they really have in their pans is not half as big as what they pretend they have!”
Sure if she knew, your friend would have suggested one of those 7 alternative to online dating that GoDates.co proposes… Those ideas are effective; no need to scare people about dating sites… Anyway, the fact is that, despite the problems you can have using with online dating, some people have found love using this technique. It works.
“Let’s give it a try”, you say.
So here you are with 2 feelings rushing in your veins. You are kind of excited; you are scared to death.
“I’ve heard about so many online dating problems, Jo. I’m not interested in living those nightmares. What can I do?”
Well, here are 2 ideas to use those dating sites safely.
#1 Stay on the website platform.
I know that a friend of mine has made a huge mistake a few years ago. I never talked to her about that. Here’s what she did: she switched too early form the dating website platform to her personal email (and worst to your personal phone) to talk to a man. That kind of move is a bad one as your security is concerned. You don’t know who you are talking to. Let’s say that you are chatting with a real jerk who seems to have no respect for women. 2 minutes after the beginning of the discussion, here he starts asking stupid question like.
“Well, tell me how big they are?”
Believe me, those idiots are doing you a favor. You understand right away who they are. No need to ask yourself any question about their quality.
I mean absolute zero.
The dangerous guy
“You can call me honey but you’re no damn good for me” Dangerous– Michael Jackson.
The dangerous one are those that hide their real nature. To smoke them out, you will need time. You lose that precious time when you give some private information too soon. Remember that even if you find out that this man is… well weird, he still has your phone number.
I still remember back in the days. My sister was annoyed by a dude who had no respect at all. He just could not stop calling her .
“ Stop calling or I will tell my brother, she said”.
I was not a tough kid. But I knew a few ones…
The point is this: stay for a while on the site platform to communicate. You don’t have to rush the process. If he finds out that you are an interesting woman, waiting will not bother him that much.
Anyway, today, most men know that there are about 3 men for 1 women on those sites. If he has a brain, he will understand that he has a great opportunity to talk to a lady. But what will you talk about? Well Renee Slansky has a great answer to that question. In her post 6 online dating tips to keep you safe, she says that you should ask questions. You know, just like you would in a first date. Play the detective and try to find out who he really is.
#2 Talk to me, baby
But there will be a moment when you feel that it’s time to talk. You want to hear his voice. How does he sound? He will probably feel the same. A lot of men are sensitive to beautiful female voice (I’m one of them). Is it the time to give your personal phone number?
Well you still have an option here.
In the beautiful article on lifewire.com the author suggests to use google voice. Brilliant! I have never heard of that service before. See google voice as a privacy firewall. You can obtain a google voice phone number for free and use it to route all your phone and texts to your real phone number. Wow.
It means that you will not have to call your big brother if a jerk is bothering you.
Do you have any question, any comments? Please share your thoughts in the little white box below.
Now you know that you can use dating sites without any risk of being harassed.
Go! And find your amazing man, lady.
P.S Big love for all the little sisters in the world!