So you think that, maybe, you do not have what it takes to find the man of your dreams… What? You say:
“Maybe I’m not sexy enough. I need to lose some weight.
“I do not have that look men love to see…”
“I’m boring. Maybe that’s the reason they don’t like to talk to me”
Today we are going to talk about that third comment: it’s the one cause the most damage in your love life. I will give you a simple way to get rid of that feeling .
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Your attitude follows your thoughts
Here’s the problem: if you think that you are boring, you will unconsciously act exactly the way you should so that your attitude follows your thoughts: you will be boring.
My soon-to-be girlfriend used to say that she was boring when we started to date. Well surprise! That sweet lady has a great sense of humor. To hear her laughing is like hearing a sweet waterfall. Very refreshing, so relaxing…
If you are stuck with the feeling of being boring with men, here is one simple technique that you can use.
It’s how you speak to your friends
Here is the first step: think about the way you talk to your friends. Notice how you laugh at things, how you are relaxed. What is the tone of your remarks? What is your overall attitude when one of your friends is teasing you? I’m sure that you have a certain body language when you are surrounded by people you care about.
This attitude is your real style. This is your personality as you express it physically. This attitude will be the touchstone of your reflexion when you ask yourself:
“How can I make that cute guy listen to me? How can I have a great conversation with him?”
I remember, when I was in my early 20s I had problems to hold a conversation with strangers. I just didn’t know what to say… So I borrowed books about the subject. Unfortunaltely, I didn’t have the chance to read the Ebook conversation chemistry (it was not written yet). It would have saved me a lot of time!
Nothing seemed to work.
The funny thing is that this problem never seemed to occur when I was with my best friends. So, unconsciously, I’ve decided to find a way to talk to strangers with a tone that is as close as possible to the one I use with my friends. You know what I mean? Do this and you will follow the common advice you hear when you ask how to approach a cute guy:
“Just be yourself…”
“Hum… I’ve heard that one before, Jo”
Yes, but remember the idea just above. Your goal is to observe how to talk to your friends, your sister, brother, your parents. For instance, notice how you react when your favorite cousin says that he just have found a new job. What kind of question do you ask? In what you tone of voice?
Start to practice with the stranger you meet every day. For instance, you like the way the lady at the cash register is dressed. Try to recreate the attitude, the tone. Of course, you will not talk to a perfect stranger exactly in the same way you talk to your best friend. But with time, you will find the “sweet spot”. The tone that is just right: the voice that sounds like the one you have with the gals but less friendly.
The second point, now, is pretty simple: once you get the voice, keep it when you talk to a man.
This is what “being yourself” means.
Of course, you will need some practice to get the right tone of voice. You will not get if right away. But do not despair. Every day, you will get closer and closer to your goal.
Then you will become irresistible. Men will feel that they have always known you. Where were you, he will think?
Do you have any questions, any comments? Please, share your thoughts in the little white box below.
Now you know that you cannot be a boring woman. You always have something to give.
Now go and find your amazing man!