I will tell you the technique to get rid of the number 1 problem that stops you from finding your husband fast.
This tip is not a magical trick. It’s reality.
It will make your research easier. It will make the process more enjoyable.
You see, to make things faster, you can do two type of solutions:
• You can try to provoke things by doing more.
• You can start to remove what is slowing you down and make the process easier.
Today, we are going to talk about what is slowing you down.
“Love can only be found though the act of loving”- Paulo Coelho
Yes, you have agenda. It’s normal. You want to be married, right?
Maybe you think about it all the time.
“Time is running by. All my friends are engaged.”
When you meet a guy, the first thing that comes to your mind is this:
“Is that man is a good man to marry? Can he be a good father for my children?”
Unconsciously, you analyze him. You start to make the two part list, look for the positive and the negative in him.
You know, you try to figure out if he’s on the bright or on the dark side of the force…
But the man feels it…
Somehow, he knows.
Then he starts to keep his distance.
“The loveless never find love. Only the loving find love. And they never have to seek for it.”- D.H Lawrence.
You are in a bar.
A guy wants to approach you in a bar. He’s good-looking. But a bell rings in your head.
“Uh, uh… this man is looking for only one thing”.
You know what I mean?
You don’t even listen to his opening line.
Gee, how many times you have heard that lousy line? Maybe he has practiced it for hours in front of a mirror hoping that it will get you in his bed?
“Yeah… I just want to finish my drink. Keep on walking….”
In that situation, what happens? Well you just can feel it.
You know when a man just wants to have sex with you. You can notice that vibe a mile away. His movements, his questions and the way he looks at you.
He pretends to be interested in you. But in reality, he wants to get something.
It just happens that you have what he wants.
But it could be somebody else. It doesn’t matter….
What you have seen is the agenda behind the approach…
A lot of men have an agenda. Women have their own. And on both side, here is the truth: most people hate agendas…
How men think
When you meet a man and already have in mind the wedding, the first baby, and the house, he will for sure feel it; He will back up.
And that especially true for good guys.
A good guy will keep his distance. He will say to himself:
“She doesn’t care about me at all. All she wants is to get married, to start a family. It just happens that I’m available.”
“She doesn’t want to know more about me: me or somebody else, it doesn’t matter.”
“Don’t get in that trap, dude. Keep your distance…”
Men prefer to hide the two first reactions when they talk to themselves: it they don’t they will see their own vulnerability. But the last one will hit him like a thunderbolt…
Put aside what you want to get what you want.
“You don’t have to go looking for love when it’s where you come from”- Werner Erhared
In other words, be careful to not only think about what you want when you meet a man you like.
Here is an acid test. As you meet a guy, are you interest to discover more about what likes, who he is or do you gather information just to evaluate him?
Yes, you don’t have time to spend with losers. You are fed up with guys who do not want to have a serious relationship.
You want to screen out the assholes fast.
I hear you.
But doing so, you will put aside many good men. Most of those guys don’t make a lot of noise. It seems that they almost hide themselves.
But what can you do?
The solution is to enjoy the process as much as you can. Make the decision to have fun looking for your man, to learn more about the man you are talking to. Is he a musician? Really? What style of music he plays?
Maybe he’s a doctor. Why that decision? Maybe being a doctor is in his family’s blood? Do you have a nurse in your own family?
A great tip to show that you are listening.
“Sometimes it’s a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence.” – David Byrne
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